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Felt Bisexual for years but am now questioning that...

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Secret Sir, Jan 18, 2014.

  1. Secret Sir

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    So I have felt like I was at least bisexual for years. But lately I am questioning whether or not I am actually gay or still just Bi.

    So Im 20, and still a virgin. I have never been good at talking to girls. For years I have always preferred "straight" porn. Something about the female body that I like. But thats as far as my feelings go for women. Their body.

    I myself have always been a sort of girly boy. Always enjoyed looking my best, going to spa's, being open about feelings, not into being macho, and I am very delicate. A lot of stuff I feel women aren't attracted to.

    But when it comes to guys, I get different feelings. I often find myself suddenly wanting to lunge over and start making out with guys. Rarely have I felt that about a pretty girl. I just feel like being in a relationship with a guy would be so much easier for me. I have no idea why though. The only thing that gets me with being in a relationship with a guy is sex. Its not that I am not interested in it, I just feel like I would ALWAYS want to be the "pitcher". "Receiving" doesn't sound pleasant to me at all. Maybe it would be something I'd become interested in but right now, no.

    So this is my predicament. I want to sleep with women and be in a relationship with me. What the hell do I do. lol
     
  2. Hexagon

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    What do describe could be labelled as homoromantic (romantic interest towards people of the same gender) bisexual. So technically bisexual, but you shouldn't feel the need to label yourself that if you don't want. There is little point, and would just be misleading to women who might be interested in you.

    In regards to the sex issue, I'm hardly an expert myself, but as far as anal sex goes, not everyone does it. You can have sex without anal, and I hear it's plenty enjoyable. There are plenty of exclusive tops and exclusive bottoms, so I'm sure you'd find someone compatible with your interests. But also don't discount the idea of receiving altogether. So long as you've prepared properly, you may find it enjoyable.