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Confused

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by ClosetedGuy, Jan 20, 2014.

  1. ClosetedGuy

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    I am very confused on my sexual orientation because before I came out to my friend(not everyone), I made sure I was gay and I was. After I came out I haven't liked the male anatomy anymore(I NEVER liked girls). Even when was in the closet for 3 years making sure I was gay, gay porn used to turn me on but now it doesn't. I am feel very uncomfortable talking about guys to my best friend because I am not even sure if I think that guy is 'hot' anymore. I really need to figure it out because I don't want to come out as gay to the public and it not being true. I used to like guys allot but now it's just nothing. I am not sure if i am just really uncomfortable with coming out to my friend or I am just not as gay as I though. Any help pls? :icon_conf
     
  2. Lozzastitch

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    Labels are something that most people don't want to conform to. I know that i fell in love with my girlfriend because of who she is not what's between her legs. I love her very much but Gay guy porn is what turns me on. I understand that you're in a difficult spot and you want to figure it out. I think it's your body's way of tell you to like yourself and be content with your feelings before deciding on the black and white of being gay or straight, there is so many other options. do some research on it. Good luck.
     
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    Have you ever thought that maybe you're asexual?
     
  4. ClosetedGuy

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    I actually done loads of research about it but I don't think i'm asexual because I have gotten crushes before and after I came out of the closet to my friends but it seems like all my sexual feelings have completely gone away. If I was still in the closet I would probably still have sexual feelings and fantasies. By now I have decided to not give a label to myself and just live life and maybe when I'm comfortable of being who I am, I might get that feeling I had before I came out.