How do you really know if you're gay? Most people say that they just knew, or that they always felt different. I really don't feel this way. I've been almost entirely attracted to guys lately, but only of a certain type. However the majority of gay guys aren't attractive to me. But I'm also attracted to most girls even less, but there are still a few that I think are pretty. And I'm just talking about just looking at pictures on the net and stuff. In real life I haven't found a guy or a girl that I find attractive for a long time now. So does this mean I'm asexual, gay, or bi? :help:
Hey dude! Your situation sounds a bit like mine actually. I am attracted to guys as well but also find some girls really pretty. However I'm only attracted in a sexual manner to guys, I think. It's just something that takes A LOT of time and a lot of thinking to realize and accept. I am in the process of (sorry for the redundancy) processing this whole thing so I don't know anything for sure yet. Just know that in the end the important thing is that you accept yourself as you are
It's just something to take one day at a time. I've found forcing yourself to reach a conclusion makes it harder
The only way to know for certain is with the passage of time. I identify as bisexual but wonder if I'm gay. It'll be a while before I know. We all go through it at some point.
This doesn't fully answer your question but some people (straight bi gay) are also what's called demi-sexual, meaning they don't really get sexually attracted until they also develop a relationship with the other person. Could partly explain why you rarely find people attractive in real life. Of course this would then mean you'd have to look closely at all your friends/acquaintances for any hints of attractiveness to better gauge if you're straight/bi/gay, would not work on strangers or "first dates" .
You know, this sounds so stupid, but I think for me it's person to person. I tend to lean more toward guys from a sexual standpoint, but there are guys who the thought of anything physical literally disgusts me. With girls, I'm just not interested sometimes--there's no physical revoltion. On the other hand, with individuals of both genders, I find myself in a situation where there's a deeper relationship (romantic) and sometimes sexual. I don't really know what I am either, but I just take it day by day haha.
Very true. I agree it differs from person to person. I agree with the sexual part too. A lot of guys gross me out but i just plain don't want to be with a girl either. Romance can be with anyone for me
