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Kinda awkward topic, but here goes...

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by WearyWanderer, Feb 2, 2014.

  1. WearyWanderer

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    So sometimes, when I...you know, masturbate...I sometimes look at pictures of girls. You know, bikini models and stuff. While doing it, it turns me on. But aside from that, girls don't really seem to attract me anymore. If I look at this pictures, just glancing at them and not horny, then I'll say "oh, they're hot" and move on. But when I see a picture of a hot guy (that's my type), there's something a little bit more there I feel. Also, when I masturbate without pictures or anything and just fantasy, I think more men than women.

    I feel romantically attracted towards men. I can't really picture myself with a girl anymore. I've been attracted to them romantically in the past, when I was in middle school and stuff. But now I don't really have "crushes" on girls anymore. I'm still turned on by scantly-clad pictures of them, but I wouldn't really consider a relationship with one.

    Do you think this mean I'm gay? To be honest I'd kind of prefer to be gay than bi...I think that title just suits me better.
     
  2. if you think something fits then try it on for size.

    who do you actually see yourself having a relationship with say in 5 years time?
    the things you think about while alone doesnt need to add up in real life. its a fantasy, more often than not is sort of like porn its not really any indication of sexuality.

    if you wouldnt consider a relationship with a woman, thats fine. you can call yourself gay if you like but you dont have to label yourself at all.
     
  3. WearyWanderer

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    Yeah I guess that's true. Never thought about it like that. Thanks :slight_smile:
     
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    I watch more straight porn than I do gay.

    Basically you are what you are, only you can answer that.
     
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    First, there's no reason to feel uncomfortable or awkward about discussing masturbation. Many of us are taught that it's shameful, but it's a normal and natural thing and so the more you can just own and be proud of yourself as a sexual being, the more comfortable with your sexual self you'll be. :slight_smile:

    You don't say how old you are, but until you're in your early 20s (and sometimes beyond that), sexual arousal for most guys is very strong (as is the desire to masturbate) and so, for some people, almost anything involving any sort of sexuality or scantily-clad person can be arousing.

    The real question generally can be answered by what your fantasies are when you're masturbating without porn or thinking about porn you've watched. If you find yourself mostly thinking about guys, and if you find yourself more strongly aroused thinking about guys... it's highly likely if not near certain that you're gay, or at least close enough to the "gay" end of the spectrum to be very comfortable identifying that way.