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What am I?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Servius, Feb 4, 2014.

  1. Servius

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    As the title may tell, I am completely unsure about my sexual orientation.

    I'm in the later years of the teens, and I really have thought a lot about what I want and desire and deserve. I've heard quite a lot from others about how things are choices, and about how things shouldn't/should be, and I'm not sure what to say or how to say it.

    The issue isn't that I'm single, nor is it that I can't relate or decide. I have pretty much decided on what I want, and how and why, but I'm not exactly sure what that would mean.

    The odd story begins, I suppose.

    First of all, I have never shown any signs at all of being gay, bisexual, or queer (of which I consider to be signs). I have been completely straight, although when I was younger, I would test how things felt, how they moved, etc. Basically saying I have never had any tendencies at the least.

    As I started acclimating to my senior year of high school, I met a girl. It was pretty much love at first sight. No words spoken. We started dating three days after we met, and it's the relationship I will/would never regret. I love her to death.

    Well, as it turns out, she is bisexual. I was completely aware of that from the start, and to be honest, it doesn't surprise me in the least. She had this vibe about her that was pretty much bisexual.

    We continued to date, and no major events or anything had/have occurred.

    Except one.

    She started talked to me about bisexuality. She talked to me about how it really doesn't matter what you like/don't like. It's a choice, and it's what you want. Nobody can stop you from making that decision.

    And lo and behold, I started to think more about it. I thought about how it really isn't strange to be with a guy, nor is it strange to be with a girl. We're all human, and gender is a reproductive gene.

    So why not?

    I started to have more sexual tendencies towards men. I've thought about scenarios with certain males that I know, and I have started watching gay porn (and found it erotic).

    I confided with my girlfriend about it, and she immediately approved. She even condoned it, saying that I should try and experiment with some guys. I was bewildered at the least, because in a relationship (in my mind), shouldn't you never go with another partner?

    Apparently friend's with benefits to her within a relationship is alright.

    Which opens up a lot more to me as an individual. Due to that, I now have the opportunity to try things with other males, and experiment.

    I'm open now, more than I have ever been before, and the thought constantly comes back to me every single day.

    What exactly am I? Am I bisexual?

    I see bisexuality as wishing for a relationship with another male, not just wish for sex.

    Am I straight with curious desires?

    I'd love to see what you guys think, as this IS my first post.

    --

    Some other questions of mine:

    Is having sex wrong when you're a teenager?

    Would having sex with a guy be wrong when you're dating a girl who doesn't mind it? (I feel like it's morally wrong. Also, I want to be loyal to her.)


    Sorry. These kind of fit in another topic^, but I didn't want to create multiple threads.
     
  2. Claudette

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    I would say, Straight but experimenting =p
    it's perfectly natural to have tendencies about the same sex, as you said we're all human.
    maybe start writing down what turns you on from other men, why it turns you on (thought of penetration, kissing them, being held by them etc etc)
    I would explore it a little bit, because you never know until you've tried ^^

    As for the sex question: it really boils down to what teen year you are, mental stability, and the stability of the relationship, as well as locals laws and such lol

    Your last bit... I can't give you an unbiased opinion on...
    I wouldn't, because much like you, a relationship to me is exclusive, even as a teen "guy" I hated the thought of a three-way (even broke up with my gf for kissing a BI girl)

    I hope I helped abit
     
  3. Servius

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    The strange part is that I already embrace bisexuality slightly, even thought I am quite unsure.

    Interestingly enough, my girlfriend said a three-way would be alright to her.
     
  4. Claudette

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    you gotta make sure you're ok with it though... to see what you like in a 3-way means another guy, are you going to be able to handled another man potentially penetrating your gf?