Well not sure where to start. I've already gave my current situation so i won't bore you guys with it again. I'm at the point in my life that i'm ready to fully embrace who i am. The thing is i don't know what i am. I know i'm not straight, but i don't believe i'm gay because i still have crushes on some women and sometimes get off to straight porn. There is this one girl that i've known since middle school and i have been "in love" with her for years. Never been with anyone before so i'm not sure what love is but i do know i want her in my life. She cute, funny, smart, artistic(major plus), and down to earth. Anyways back on track i've never crushed on a guy(never had an romantic desire to date anyone) but of course i find guys more sexual attractive but certain women not a lot really pull me in and i want to be with them. Guess my question is do you think i'm gay or bisexual. the label isn't really for me but i want to be able to explain to the people close to me when i come out.(hopefully this year) the kinsey scale rated me a four i believe but i would love to hear everyone opinions! I'm ready to be free!
Well I'm not sure if I'm entirely gay either. I came out as gay, and I feel comfortable with that label, but I'm not 100% sure I am. Basically I realised that if I came out as bi most people (though this isn't my opinion) would just think I'm a closeted gay. Whereas if I came out as gay, but then got with a girl again, people would think I'm that gay guy that's probably bi. That's how I decided what to do. But I guess the moral of the story is you shouldn't worry too much about labels. Yeah that's hypocritical in a way, but the only person who can answer your question is you. What do you feel comfortable with?
Very true i just believe sexuality isn't just black and white. there is a lot a gray in between. Guess i won't truly know until i've been or try to be with both sexes. the only problem is finding someone who actually wants me aha. -__- Anyways, thanks for the response. i may just do what you did. makes more sense.
In high school I thought I was straight because I didn't know any gay girls, and I am not into very feminine girls. So I never had any crushes on girls (except maybe from afar) because the ones I knew well weren't my "type", even though I thought some of them beautiful or hot. I often crushed on guys but wasn't always particularly interested in actually doing anything with them, except for the social status afforded by having "experimented".
For how long have you accepted your sexual attraction to men? You may find that as you become increasingly accepting of your sexuality, you'll have an easier time crushing on men, and not just being sexually attracted to them. At least that's what happened to me.
I accepted over the past year but i knew since the 7th grade. Ok good. i was lost on why i never crushed on men even though i know i'm attracted to them.
