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Attracted to Lesbians

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by JohnB, Feb 16, 2014.

  1. JohnB

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    1st of all, I'm a dude, and most likely gay, have been liking other boys all throughout my schooling from elementary to college(Bi does seem very do-able at this point, but I did not fully come out yet, but that is for another post)

    2nd, Being attracted to Lesbians, what does it mean?

    I believe I am attracted to girls who are lesbians. Typical, I know, a guy into girls who kiss girls, but I believe it is deeper than that. I always was attracted to girls with short hair and were different from any other long haired girls,(not that I am implying ALL short haired girls are lesbians nor girls with long hair are not. Just what I am attracted to) but now it seems that girls with short hair AND are into other girls adds much to the attraction.

    What attracts me are:
    - Short/Dyed hair.
    - MAINLY - Spunky attitude about not caring what people think about them.
    - A girl wearing boys underwear is always a given.
    - Wearing boy clothes.

    Now, what kinda tears me apart, I know I cannot have them because I am not their preference, and most I know made it clear that they are only into girls. ( To be clear, I have not announced this preference to anyone before.)

    I am attracted to a friend who is a lesbian, she possesses all these traits I like, and she treats me like a "bro"(not brother, just a real close friend), but lately I have been liking her, and even had a dream last night she playfully tackled me and then we kissed.

    Needless to say I haven't revealed this to her nor plan to, because I do not want to mess what we have. I honestly do not see us going anywhere due to our backgrounds and circumstances. Can anyone enlighten me on this attraction to lesbians? Kinda confused.

    P.S.: Sex change is not an option, already thought about it. A dude who's into dudes and a girl who's into girls couple always confused, but yet always felt right and interesting to me.

    Thank you.
     
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  2. Fallingdown7

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    If you're attracted to specifically girls that are into other girls along with those traits, maybe you can find a bisexual woman?
    I do know that you can probably find a straight woman that looks like that, but if being attracted to women is added to it then the former idea may be better.
     
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    Thank you for your response, madam. :slight_smile:
     
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    Sounds like it could maybe be androphilia/androsexuality, but maybe with a sort of sub-category. I don't really have any idea more specific than that. I do think Fallingdown's suggestion of a bisexual woman is good.
     
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    My mom has a friend who looks very dykey, but is mostly straight. Maybe you can find a girlfriend like that.
     
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    So a sex change is not an option, but is still interesting to you right?
     
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    Yes, thank y'all for your responses and suggestions.

    androphilia/androsexuality? sounds sexy, huh, interesting.

    @Anthemic. Though I understand and respect people should do what feels right, even if it means changing their sex, but I totally believe whole heartily that people should be comfortable in their on skin and make it work. Those who do change their sexes have the right to do so and I commend them for their choice, it is just not for me. Though it crossed my mind for a few minutes, but I just don't think I'd give up what I have something I wasn't born with. :slight_smile:

    ---------- Post added 10th Mar 2014 at 11:51 PM ----------

    Yup, today I found I have a crush on my friend, which it turns out a girl friend has revealed that she has a crush on her too. I realized today, that my friend's strong sense of confidence in who she is kind drives me and I realized now apparently in others, as well.

    I fear that this may play wickedly in the future of this little crush may become an obsession. Now this crush may turn into an obsession if I do not come out soon. I totally wondered if this crush would elevate and imagined actually kissing her or something, but there are many factors which outweigh the good things that may come from a possible relationship beyond friends. One of the factors being, I am dude of course, but another one is she is one of those girls who'd like someone, but once you cross that line into a intimate thing, it will forever destroy the friendship, nothing will be the same. This obsession may increment due to a small circle of acquaintances. Friends are s hard to make when closeted.

    Maybe I shall just straight up find other lesbians to become friends with and even a Bi-sexual girl.