I'm a 17 year old (gay) male. I have been out for a little over a year (to family) and 2 years (to friends). I have been accepted by everyone I came out to for the most part and I have been pretty happy as a gay teen. However, lately (past few months, I have started to think I might be bi cause really pretty girls catch my eye. And I begin to wonder if I'm bi instead of gay for thinking what it would be like to be with them. I don't really want to be bi, cause it's hard for me to see myself with a woman, and I doubt it will happen. Usually, when I masturbated to women, I imagined myself as the beautiful woman being dominated (when I felt more 'feminine'). I feel like I have reveresed HOCD almost. Big, muscular men are what really make me interested. I get an awkward feeling when I imagine myself with a woman. I feel like I'm becoming more 'masculine' and straight/bi guys turn me on the most. I kinda feel like if I was like them it would turn me on, dominating a woman. Don't tell me not to label myself cause that would just stress me out more than I am. Which do I seem; gay or bi? How can I know and feel confident? And how did you know?
Your sexual orientation could very well be different from your romantic orientation. I know where you're coming from, I get nervous around boys but girls are really my thing. You could be closest to homosexual on the Kinsey scale, but still a chance of liking girls, or maybe you're simply homoflexible. There a lot of labels out there, if labels make you feel better, but remind yourself just a bit that you don't have to have one. If identifying with being gay makes you happier than thinking of yourself as bi, then you can consider yourself gay. You don't have to swear off girls for your entire life if you identify as gay. My personal opinion, it sounds like you're gay, maybe homoflexible for the right person. You can appreciate someone's beauty without having a huge crush on them, because I know I do that for guys. Hope I helped, and good luck!
ok i'll go straight(lol) with you, i think you're gay not bi. and i'm pretty sure even if you get all masculine or macho whatsoever you'll still be attracted to straight or bi men but it is still hard to believe, you masturbated on woman? i'm like wow i could never do that and i won't even bother lol
You're probably homoflexible or fluid. Sexuality doesn't have to be Gay Straight Bi Pan or Asexual, it's often in between.
It's not odd that you find woman astetically (visually but I tried big words) appealing. Your sexual orentation, the way I explain it, is when you look at someone and go "would I tap dat?" If you don't wanna tap a woman, then you're IMHO gay and just recognizes beautiful people when you see them~ no shame there.
I agree with Waffles. Just because you find someone visually attractive doesn't mean that you're sexually attracted to them. If you don't see yourself with a girl, then you're probably just gay. I identify as bisexual, but I definitely prefer guys over girls (Kinsey 4 or 5). I find lots of girls extremely attractive, but I don't get turned on by them (most of the time; there's a few exceptions, hence why I identify as bi). So you're gay, but you're able to appreciate beauty in girls. That's a good thing, and most certainly nothing to be ashamed of.
You are gay. You said you like big guys (made me laugh, I'm one of those, haha). You may be sexually attracted to a girl now and then, because even straight guys are sometimes sexually attracted to other guys. It's natural. What is probably happening with you, is that you are seeing an attractive girl and she either looks like or reminds you of a guy that you may be attracted to. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you, honestly. I still find girls attractive now and then, but I don't want to have sex with them etc. Also, if you masturbated to straight porn and imagined you were the girl and not the guy, you are definitely gay and not bi. I've done that in the past, gay porn is pretty limited, and not that great... I hope you are well, other than that talk to me whenever you like, I'm always here to help.
I see what you're saying (for the most part) but how can a girl look like or remind me of a guy that I may be attracted to?
Well, their mannerisms may remind you of a guy you like. Also, some girls look masculine and some guys look feminine. I fancied some guy for ages and when I met his sister I fancied her a bit as well. Haha.
