Its been a long time since I've used this site, but here's the situation guys... I was pretty certain I was gay...I am pretty certain I am gay since I was about 14, but recently, I've begun to notice a disinclination to go for guys. I go to Uni now and there are loads of attractive guys and equally attractive girls. The problem I have is that I am out to some of my friends, but not all, this one is a older woman doesn't know. She's actually older than me by 10 years but despite this she looks much younger, has a kid & an older husband, she looks no older than me for sure and sometimes you just know when the way she acts around me that it might not be one sided. There are also two other girls I spend a fair bit of time with - they know I'm gay - I've told them. But as I spend more time with them, I'm beginning to really get a real crush on the three of them and with two in particular at least, I've visually imagined myself with them in a family life environment type thing, and I've never EVER done this before. Probably for the first time in my memory, I was physically aroused by them as girls. Normally though, the only thing that interests me in 99.9% of all girls even the hottest, is their fashion (Gay!) ...On the other hand, I have spend a lot less time with guys, in fact I spend time with no guys I find remotely attractive on any level. I will still take double takes at guys I like. I used to have male friends and I liked one in a more than friendly way but he's out of my life nearly completely now. There was one guy I really liked last year, I knew nothing about him but when I saw him I knew I LIKED him, not just fancied. This year, I've lost that serious liking to the point where I don't even bat an eyelid now. There are others I like, there was a nice guy today he even winked at me, which made me flutter a little bit, and I am still fascinated by gay guys, I like to see what's on the market! Ultimately I know I like guys...I go to sleep most nights thinking about them... I just wonder whether I need some men in my life...? It sounds awful talking about porn, but I really just don't find gay stuff interesting anymore, there is literally nothing I want to watch...that I haven't watched. I cant say straight stuff does it for me in a major way, and lesbian stuff is a total no go. Maybe I'm complicating things, maybe I'm bi...maybe its just a blip. Arrrrghh I'm completely confused now and just when I thought I knew who I was!!
Hey Chrisyboy, im bi and I find that I go through phases ill go a year only thinking about men and then I go a while feeling more attracted to women. Case in point ive really been thinking about men exclusively lately and today I went to the store I frequent and theres a new girl cashier. I went home from work showered and put on my most flattering clolthes and went back to the store to buy stuff I didn't need, just to get her to notice me. I feel there a no rules to sexuality your body tells you what you like not the other way around
lol! That's cute. I think it's normal to have your phases. To OP just try not to get caught up in labels that can end up confusing you more.
