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has my OCD turned me gay

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by dan89, Mar 4, 2014.

  1. dan89

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    hi, i know people say you cant turn gay but im not so sure. im 25 and all through my childhood and teens i was straight, no guessing, no confusion i was straight, i loved everything about females, then just before i turned 18 i woke up with the"gay obsession" just the words repeating over and over, "you're gay" which lasted months, i had no attractions to guys ever, none! then after it passed i became asexual, still slept with women and even fell inlove, but it wasnt the same as before. then at 22 it came back, this time i felt an attraction to guys faces, this all passed a few months later and so did the attractions, again i was asexual, now im here at 25 in love with the perfect girl, its back, im currently on meds, but this time im finding all men attractive, its constant, i cant get aroused to gay porn, and i check 10 times aday, i go on gay cam chatrooms and still feel nothing, but now i feel like i am gay and have been for a while, i remember a few times ive been attracted to guys in the last few years but tbh im at a stage where i dont know whats real or not anymore, but i feel like im accepting my sexuality but still struggle the attractions give me bad anxiety, i have been in love with 2 girls since the 1st obsession at 17 its been so long since ive felt the sexual attraction to girls, that i cant be straight anymore, please dont say i have always been this way because i know i havnt, the feelings and sexual attraction i used to have to women was far stronger than ive experienced for any man, but has all this obsessing turned me into my obsession. can this happen coz it feels like it has

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    when i say attracted to guys in my past, i dont mean romanticlly or anything ijust mean ive noticed their bodies and maybe once or twice ive noticed a good looking feminine asian guy

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    i have honestly never thought about a guy sexually, and even though im not enjoying or arroused by it i cant get the images of gay sex outta my mind. i know feel like im attracted to my life long friends which is weird but the attractions feel genuine and not something my mind has made up to scare me
     
  2. dan89

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    am i just kidding myself by living in the past? i was once straight its clearly not the case anymore
     
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    From what I've read in your story, it sounds like an internal argument of "attractive vs. attraction". There's this stigma around guys where they can't compliment each other's looks or else that makes them less manly (or something like that), but that's just dumb. It's totally normal for guys to think of others as attractive without being attracted to them; chicks do it all the time. You just have to determine whether you think of a person like "I want to be you" or "I want to be with you." I get the feeling this is what you're experiencing, because you've mentioned not being romantically or sexually attracted to guys all that much.

    Also, there are other sexual orientations besides gay, straight, or asexual. Sexuality comes in a spectrum. Don't worry about suddenly becoming gay, chances are that's not what's happening.
     
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    thank you for your comment, but it does feel like i have turned gay, or atleast have been turning gay, i know full well from the ages of childhood to 17 i was straight, the 17-24 asexual with preferance to women now i am attracted to guys and not women, the attraction feels much more than it is to women, some guys is even how i used to feel about women, bad time to be in a relationship with the women of my dreams aye

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    and i also know i was never attracted to guys in the past

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    maybe not as strong as it used to be as i have no lust over guys like i used to with women
     
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    No your OCD has not turned you gay. Just like having sex with a woman dosen't mean you straight. No one can decide this but you, Years ago I was shook up about it until I finally decided (being single) I did not have to decide. I took sometime away from relationships and sex and came to this conclusion (posted on my profile page):

    "I consider myself an Anamorph…LIBERATED SEXUAL BEING neither choosing Sexual identity or allowing myself to be labeled as one. On this website I have choosen Bi-Sex because it is the only thing close to what I am."

    The best way to find out is first try some "home" experiments (with safe equipment).
    Practice enough to learn the ins and outs. This will give you the reality of physical feeling without involving another human being. Let me tell you It took me quite a while to actually get past the pain and enjoy myself. If you still are confused after this THERE IS ONLY ONE WAY TO FIND OUT! (!)(And having sex with your own gender one time doesn't make you gay either!)

    I had a pretty famous friend who died recently of liver failure. He thought he was gay, then no, back and forth he went, he got married in the 70's lasted a few years, the 80's then it lasted a few years longer finally he met a gal in the 90's and they were wonderful together Lou loved her and he had stopped woundering about being gay or bi or staight he started focusing on who he really loved. Hes part of the reason I joined this forum this late in life. My message is be who you are not what everybody else thinks you should be.