Okay, so for the past 8 months or so i started to think i'm not straight, but was still unsure if i'm bi or maby a lesbian. Then a couple of months ago i posted on this forum that i don't know what my sexuality is and i could deduce that i'm definitly not straight from the advice and answers i got. BUT, i started to think again.. You see, i did once get the butterfly in my stomach feeling when talking to a guy. And i'm almost 22 now and i never had that feeling about a girl. Though i fantisyse about being intimate with girls and find kissing with guys kind of boring. Also the idea of being intimate with a guy reeeaaally doesn't appeal to me. So what i'm thinking now is that i'm romantically attracted to guys and physically attracted to women. But i recently went of vacation with a female friend of mine, just the two of us, and we went to a public bath house, so i saw her naked. I think she's absolutly beautiful, and also when she sometimes touches my shoulder whilst talking or when she's leaning her head on my shoulder i just think: "oww please don't do that, i might like you more then a friend if you keep doing that." I also think she's reallly kind and caring and ahh i'm glad to have her as a friend. (Also i get kind of agitated when she talks about her boyfriend. Yes, she's straight.) But the butterfly feeling still is nowhere to be found. So i have absolutly no idea how i feel about her, or women in general, because i never had the butterfly's! Is it just sexual, or is it also romantically but am i just to ignorent to accept that fact? I feel i should say though that one time i was talking to a girl online and i kept waiting for her messages and whenever i saw i had a new message i was really excited and happy. Anyway, i'm just really confused about what my feelings are and if maby i'm just straight but going trough a fase or whatever. I'm sorry if this doesn't make any sense, i'm bad at writing down my thoughts and English isn't my native language. Any advice/comments is welcome.
I can't say for sure. The only person who will ever know your sexual and romantic orientation is yourself. It does sound to me like you're a heteromantic homosexual. That's the way it sounds, but that is just from what I know. I think you just have to be open to what makes you feel the most comfortable, and find a way to come to terms with yourself. When the time is right you'll know exactly what you feel ^^ I'm sorry this wasn't super helpful
Heteromantic ( romantically attracted to the opposite sex ) homosexual ( sexually attracted to the same sex )