Hiya, so... there's a guy I (I'm also male), and I... to sum up super fast, I thought I was asexual all through my teenage years, then tried sex on a whim, at 19, cos I knew I could be really close emotionally with a girl. And then I was all ohh, no, I'm definitely straight. Never thought further. Then about 6 months ago, a record I'd started to write, and a band idea led to trying to actually learn who I am, cos I... well I've had a bit of a curious life. And anyways, I'm pretty sure I'm something other than straight, definitely a girls and or sort of thing, but whatever, I ... god this looks much worse all typed out :/ Um, but so I've no idea if I could actually or would, or anything, I'm 24 now, and there's this guy, and we have fun times & talk an awful lot & equally thus. I am terrible at gauging anything, and I've actually no clue what his sexuality or gender are. And I've almost made a move the last two times we did stuff. But um... I just don't know, y'know? As hot as I get now, for certain sorts of guys in porn, or as hot as I get for certain thoughts, I... I've never been confronted with a cock, let alone one to play with. And oh god, I'm also kind of a slut, like I would just put out, to find out, cos that's how I found out I like doing it with girls. But he's a friend & he might be a roommate, I complicated everything by suggesting he take the other room in my flat, and I... What the heck is a boy to do?
So what I'm getting out of this is that you're questioning your sexuality, but are attracted to this guy? Just so you know, it's perfectly okay to be questioning. A lot of people simply just say they're queer, to avoid restricting labels. It's hard being questioning of yourself while liking someone whose orientation you don't know. I'm not saying it's good advice, but I would, depending on how much I trust him, tell him about how I'm not really sure of my orientation.. over drinks, probably. Maybe he'll give you advice and you can get some hint of his orientation..? Wow, lots of luck to you! Hopefully you get the resolution you want! (*hug*)
I have gone through the same thing... Like wow I'm definitely straight but I keep coming back to "non-straight" thoughts so I'm definitely not. Not to decide for you but I would say at least not straight. Anyway. It's really cute that you found a guy you like, I think being a roommate with him wouldn't be a bad thing, you would be able to spend more time with him and kind of observe a look for clues as to his orientation. Also who knows? Something might happen. And that might help you decide about your orientation and figure out your feelings for him. I may not be addressing this the best but bottom line: be roommates and probably eventually sit down and talk with him, tell him how you feel and that you at confused. That'll get a lot out in the open. Good luck!
