Romantic feelings vs sexual feelings: why can't they just match up?

Bisexually isn't always 50/50 it's not for every bisexual
Some bisexual are homoromantic more emotionally and sexually attracted to the same sex only wanting sex with the opposite
some bisexuals are heteromantic more emotionally and sexually attracted to the opposite sex and only wanting just sex with the opposite .
or you could be still not comfortable with the idea of being more than just sexual with a woman .
Just because your bi doesn't mean you have to like both sexes the same way . some bisexuals are 50/50 others aren't some are 80/20 some are 90/10 .

 

I'm confuse on what you meant saying you felt weird being both emotionally and physically attracted to them at the same time are you talking about women ?
if that's so then I think you hadn't accepted the fact that your attracted to the same sex and your still not use to it

 

Oh, yes, I understand this so much. I fall in love with my girlfriends like this, but sexually I cannot bring myself to think of them in that way. It just doesn't work/turn me on. I'm way more into guys sexually and I guess a bit more into women romantically. I've also been with women sexually and I always end up missing men.

I'm also married to a wonderful man. Being bisexual or mismatched can be really confusing. I totally understand.

 

I think for some people it just takes time. The mind forms ruts in the sand based on the expectations of the cultures we live in, and either those feelings come or they don't as we grow and change as human beings.

 

Only you can know the answer to that.

Do you never ever have sexual attraction and romantic attraction for either sex at the same time or are you just deliberately necrotizing the one over the other because of an uncomfortable truth? In other words, are you sexually or romantically sabotaging yourself out of some kind of fear (internal or external)?

I'm not saying that you are doing these things. And I'm definitely not judging you at all (please believe me on that) but I am, and I'm sure many other peeps on here are, keenly aware of the power of self-mythology and denial. It's such a corrosive force.

Can I just re-iterate I was totally not being judgemental towards you in any way (I'm only asking the questions because I was previously on here under another sobriquet and I wasn't completely truthful and so I fucked off in a fire-y blaze of unhappiness because, quite rightly, people feel this is a place where they can come to be accepted and in so accepting we can feel as advice-givers that we shouldn't ask questions as that might make people go down the rabbit-hole and disappear, but really to ask questions is probably better than giving advice seeing as that most of us probably aren't professionally trained people so giving advice might be far less perceptive than actually being inquisitive and the point being is I might have stayed here last time if some people had asked me questions, not that they [and I include myself in the advice I've given since being back] should know, only that they might be inhibited from asking questions because they want to be embracing but this possibly isn't the best approach).

Hopefully you yada yada yada'd that and won't feel like I'm attacking you with my questions. Because I'm here to help. We're here to help. But we're mostly untrained (I think).

Anyway, you are you. And that's a beautiful thing.

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