Hi, So i'm already pretty sure i'm not straight, but i don't know if i'm bisexual or a lesbian. Do you maby have some suggestions as to what i can do to be more sure about this? I've already planned to go to a gay bar, but since i have a personality disorder wich makes social interaction pretty hard, maby there are some other things i can do to be more sure of who i am? Thanks in advance.
Well, a lot of things, i like lesbian movies, especially when they get intimate, i really don't like the idea of sex with a man, i do like the idea of sex with a women, i never really enjoyed kissing guys, when i was talking to a girl at work, i was dissapionted when she told me she had a boyfriend and i just like the female body ---------- Post added 17th Mar 2014 at 09:43 PM ---------- i know, i'm just tired of being so confused all the time. I think i would be more at peace with myself if i know who i am better.
A self-evaluation that I've become familiar with since joining EC is to masturbate without porn and see what your mind drifts to, what pleasures you the most, what turns you off, etc.. Use your imagination. Do you get turned on thinking about pleasuring or being pleasured by a woman? Think of all different types of women - more feminine, more masculine. What about men? Just explore your imagination and see what gets the largest response out of your body. Also, pay attention to what your eyes follow in public. That was a good clue to me when I started paying attention to that. I noticed that I pay no mind to women, but when I see a cute guy, my eyes follow him for a long time.
OK, good answer to that question. I know what I'm thinking the answer is. Question 2. What makes you think you might be bisexual? Specifically - do you feel attraction to guys, or is it just girls?
Thanks for the suggestion TJ. About the eye thing, when i was younger my eyes followed guys, but now, they drift to cute girls ---------- Post added 17th Mar 2014 at 09:48 PM ---------- i think i might be bisexual because i did fall in love with a guy once, but i never wanted to be intimate with him, so i think i just feel romantically attracted to guys, not physically, but since i'm a total newbie to all this, also the terminoligy, i don't know if this also fits in the bisexual lable or not
Allow me to change that question slightly. What makes you think you might be bisexual? Specifically - do you feel attraction to guys, or is it just girls RIGHT NOW, THIS MINUTE. Not in the past, in the present and the future. Can you see yourself doing the things you want to do to a girl with a guy?
So then my third question is this. If you can see yourself with a girl and you want to be with girls in the future, but you cannot see yourself with a guy and do not want to be with guys in the future, then do you really have any notable attraction to guys? Considering that the definition of the terms are as follows, are you gay or bisexual? Gay - attraction to those of the same gender as you (in your case female) Bisexual - attraction to both male and female
i guess i would be gay, but doesn't the fact that i am romantically attracted to guys count?Or does it have to be both sexual and romantical attraction for one gender or both?
