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If a biromantic homosexual woman dates a straight guy?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by MyLittleWorld, Mar 20, 2014.

  1. MyLittleWorld

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    Is it fair to tell him that you are simply a bisexual?:confused:
     
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    Well depends on the guy. If he is so strictly religious and you are thinking seriously you might skip that part as between you two it will be straight relationship.

    On normal circumstances I would say be true to your partner so there you have it.

    You know the guy and decide what is the best course of action.
     
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    Depending on how serious the relationship gets, if he realizes that you're not actually sexually attracted to him, he may feel seriously hurt. Although in the early parts of the relationship, I'm sure there'd be no problems, there's a good chance there will be some down the line. :/
     
  4. MyLittleWorld

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    Well I didn't tell him that I'm homosexual biromantic I said I was bisexual and he just thinks that I like guys and girls 50/50..:confused:

    ---------- Post added 20th Mar 2014 at 11:32 AM ----------

    Well he thinks I'm bisexual..
     
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    Being bisexual does not mean you have to like both sexes 50/50 you can be bisexual and like one more than than the other. You can be bisexual and be 95% to girls and 5% attracted to men . Just say your bi with a preference for women
     
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    A bisexual just doesn't feel right for me. I mean, if I'm with my boyfriend and he is half naked I have thoughs about his chest that something is missing... It can feel right because of touching but it's confusing... If I want to touch him its just because I want to try it but I don't want to do anything...
     
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    I think you should tell him the truth but not in a harsh way. He deserves to know that you are only sexually attracted to women and only romantically to both men and women.

    It is just fair for him because he could think that he is doing something wrong and could maybe blame himself for it.

    You should really talk to him about it.
     
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    I feel like I need to.. but how?
     
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    Just bring it up and be honest. If you don't do this now, it will definitely become an issue down the line in your relationship.
     
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    I agree with AmiBee. The sooner you do it the better it is. Maybe you can try to start slowly with the topic, so that it's not too hurtful for him, or that he isn't too shocked about it. (Especially if he is a sensitive and emotional guy)

    For example: You could tell him that you have to talk to him about something, then remind him about the topic where you told him that you are bisexual and then go a step further and say that it wasn't quite right and finally tell him the truth.
     
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    I keep blaming myself and he keeps blaming himself for doing something wrong... I'm not so sure he would understand I remember when I told him I was bi he said he had no problem with that but later I noticed he wasn't totally okey with that. He asked me not to do anything with anyone when I was going to the party with my friends and he meant girls... And when we talk about sex I have told him that I never slept with a guy just with girls... Still I'm not sure how he would react... I love him and I can kiss him or make out or even get excided but I couldn't get any further... Maybe one day I will try but I know for sure I would not be able to get into it... And I care about him too much to do such "tests" on him...
     
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    Safety comes first, if you think he would hurt you in any way than I would be deadly cautious about it all.
     
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    I don't he would hurt me I'm just afraid he will not understand and it will be the end and I don't want that.:confused:
     
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    Why are you doing this to yourself?? The sexual allure of women is going to keep popping into your head as time goes on. Can you really maintain a relationship with someone you are not sexually attracted to?
     
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    I wouldn't do it. It's not going to make any straight guy happy, to have to tell him, I want to date you and might fall in love with you, but there is no way that I can be able to desire you physically, and I will never want to have sex with you. Even if you think you could maybe put up with having sex with someone without that erotic spark just to make him happy, that is going to grow into an unbelievable strain. Denying this fact by saying you're bisexual is not fair either. I wouldn't want to set the poor guy up for disappointment.
     
  17. I wouldn't do it, it would be like you dating a woman who is biromantic heterosexual...things would become unfulfilling soon enough. They would feel smothered and pressured while you would probably feel undesired.
     
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    I wouldn't do it either. It wouldn't be fair to me or the guy.
     
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    I wouldn't recommend it.
     
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    Yeah, I think that would be just cruel to both you and the guy. Why would you even want to do that?