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Any bisexuals feel like this?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by drwinchester, Mar 25, 2014.

  1. drwinchester

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    Been trying to make sense of my sexuality. So I'm bisexual. And I know a lot of bisexuals have a pretty fluid sexuality, which has been true in my case. But does anyone feel attracted to different genders for different reasons?

    I find I'm more attracted to men physically than I am to women. So, yeah. I prefer gay porn and the idea of sex with another guy.

    I find women pretty but here's the thing- I can find a woman physically attractive but I tend to find a woman more attractive if she's an intellectual or we're connecting on the same level. So, basically, if she's the Irene Adler to my Sherlock, then we're in town.

    To be blunt, a guy can be a complete fucking idiot and I'll find him attractive. If someone's non-binary, I'm attracted to them on the same standards as women- bit of a sapiosexual in that regard.

    Anyone else like this?
     
  2. Csp1993

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    Of course! For me, I like men and women just the same, but it will change some days. Men and women are two completely different beings. Being so different, of course you'd like them for different reasons. I feel like I'm more physically and emotionally attracted to women than men. I understand them more, so I definitely like them in different areas than I do guys.
     
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    Well...yeah...but having said that, I don't see it as being any different to how I appreciate different things in different people anyway.

    I mean, yes, in a guy I want someone warm the strong arms, because I want to feel safe at night (yes it's sappy, sue me xD). In a girl I might look for cuteness. But I don't see that as being much different to thinking that I like THIS guy because he's tall and handsome and THAT guy because he knows more about Star Wars than anyone I've ever met and also he's cute and bought my pizza!
     
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    I tend to just like nice people. :3
     
  5. DeLuna

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    I seem to just simply like peoples personalities first and outside last
     
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    I look for different qualities in both and the attributes that attract me to women are not the same than for men. Although I can be attracted to a women to the same degree as men, I am a lot more particular in tastes towards the latter. So in one way I'm 50/50 and in others, not so much. I think I'm attracted to a broader range of women but for a guy, it has to be just right. But as I said before, the degree of attraction can be the same.

    Actual gender is not as important (*hug*) :kiss:

    Hope that makes sense..
     
  7. drwinchester

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    Thanks. Okay, definitely feeling less weird.

    Should probably elaborate on how it differs. So say I've got two really attractive people- Joe and Joan. They both say "Hurr durr, the sun revolves around the earth."

    Now Joe, he's an idiot. Wouldn't date him, but I'd be all "oh well, least you're good looking". He's out of the running as a potential interest but I still find him physically attractive. Joan on the other hand, I wouldn't find physically attractive after that at all.

    I'm attracted to individuals, of course, based on different things. So I dunno- guess the above's just in general. So I'd find a guy attractive purely based on intelligence and personality- it's just in general, I find guys more physically attractive.

    So yeah. Sexuality. Tres bizarre.
     
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    Dude that makes total sense. I think in general I am most attracted to sense of humor, as cliche as that is.

    But also my physical attraction is different. When sleeping with a guy I want to be on the receiving end of things. But with women I'm more attracted to the whole body and interested in being on the giving end. So at different times I am more turned on by different genders, depending on what I want at the moment. Also I find women more visually pleasing but that doesn't always correlate with my attraction to them.

    I'm still figuring all this stuff out; hopefully one day it will all make sense.
     
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    Sexuality can be real complex. I could write an essay on mine and it still wouldn't be enough. You like what you like and that's it. Generally I'm attracted to men and women equally. I hope I don't seem jerkish for saying this... gender is an afterthought. I usually prefer slightly feminine men and slightly masculine women, so you work that one out! I have two categories in my attractiveness scale. The first being attractive people that I respect. The second being attractive people I don't respect and would throw out of a window after I finished with them. I would never pursue the pure wank material second category anyway.

    I'd crush on them both until I learned about their dumbness. That would mostly turn me off. If they were nice people I'd feel a bit bad about it for a short time. Then maybe place them into category 2 for a while. Honestly to me looks do matter to a significant degree although behaviour seals the deal.

    So you prefer men physically and women emotionally. I think you enjoy gay porn more because it's usually more... energetic. I dunno, appears to have more action and quicker to go 'hardcore'.
     
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    I'm more emotionally and physically attracted to women. However, high intelligence and a great sense of humor win attraction points for me in either sex. So while a smart, witty, beautiful female will trump 'em all for me, a smart, witty, beautiful male can also command my interest.
     
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    Im totally this way! Omg none of my friends understand this really cause they're all either straight or lesbian! But yesss i completely agree. Like men i can finnd physically attractive and thats enough but they have to be very attractive. Women on the other hand, i am attracted to for almost every reason it seems but physical appearence. If a girl connects with me on an emotional/mental level then she becomes much more attractive to me. Yeah, so definitely attracted to men and women for different reasons. That's not weird at all.