Can your sexual fantasies indicate your sexual orientation?

Id say itdoes to a point ^.^

 

I think that's one of the best indicators.

 

Yes, they most certainly can.

 

I only fantasize about girls but I can fall for boys too in real life... So I don't know anymore. It surely says something though...
Do you think the same about sexual dreams?

 

That's interesting. Sexuality is so fluid that I believe one can be heterosexual and sometimes fantasize about girls/guys or vice versa. Perhaps it can be an indicator that one is of a certain sexuality or maybe they are only attracted to the idea that it is still taboo in certain areas of the world, maybe they are turned on by doing something they wouldn't normally do but in reality are not attracted. I think it depends on why a person is having certain sexual fantasies. Sometimes it can be easier to understand how one feels when they physically or emotionally experience another person. Another thing is not to worry or feel uncomfortable with one's thoughts. I'm bisexual and only realized it a short while ago.

 

I think to some degree. If I try to fantasize about women, that kills the mood like a bucket of cold water. =/

 

I sincerely dunno.

I fantasize about and become aroused almost exclusively by thoughts of men. When I was married to my wife, I had to think about men in order to perform. Yet, in my own mind, I'm bi with a strong preference for women.

Am I in denial or just off base? :icon_conf

 

For the most part, yes.

 

I'd say that's probably the best indicator out of any...

 

Yes but it can also be confusing. I used to fantasize mostly about sexual scenarios between straight couples but in more of a voyeuristic way, like I was watching without participating because if I tried to think of myself with a man it just put me off completely. Nowadays I fantasize more about having sex with women (as myself).

 

I think it is definitely at least an indication of an inclination towards some part of one's sexual orientation whether it is something one acts on is kind of irrelevant. At the same time though it is only an indication of what one might try to put into reality if there wasn't certain types of bigotry around which deliberately seeks to make people conform to the "man and woman fucking in the missionary position to procreate" and to feel bad if this isn't what turns them on.

The reality of a fantastical encounter is also likely to be very different to what a person has built it up to be in their head over time. In the mind it is almost perfect, if a little oblique, because everyone gets off and enjoys themselves and respects each other which isn't necessarily how it will play out in real life. Even if it did it still is unlikely to exceed expectations and will more than likely fall below expectations. So in the scenario you provide: the girl who always fantasizes about other girls who actually gets the opportunity to engage the fantasy in real life but finds the real life fantasy is an unsatisfying experience, this in and of itself wouldn't necessarily prove she is straight. Only that she had an unsatisfying same-sex experience.

Long boring story short: fantasies certainly indicate something about sexual orientation and sexuality but it is only an indication of what one might do if certain conditions were met.

I would say though if a girl is with a guy and she needs to fantasise about women (and only women) in order to orgasm with her boyfriend/husband then that would probably indicate a woman who is repressing her sexuality and orientation in a highly damaging way.

 

Most of the time yes sometimes no but it's pretty accurate most of the time

 

hmmm maybe...I mostly fantasize about having sex with men and sometimes solo women/lesbians. I very rarely fantasize about myself having sex with women. But then in a relationship sense, I mostly fantasize about being with a woman...like a close best friend. I guess I'm just weird lol.

 

Yes it can

 

It definitely does!

 

Sometimes I fantasize about girls. In fact I'd say it's actually about 60/40, guy/girls.

I didn't think anything of this because it's just a fantasy, and doesn't actually reflect me. But after reading this thread I'm not so sure anymore, I assumed this was normal.

I identify as gay but I'd say it's probably about 90/10. I don't know how I feel about this revelation.

 

I don't know, I can't provide an easy answer to this. I much prefer looking at girls. To me, the female form is the most incredibly beautiful thing on earth. However, as sexy as my eyes seem to find them, I don't seem to get much of a genital reaction out of it. By the same token, men extremely seldom catch my eye (an exception includes a guy in my class right now--wow, what a beautiful specimen). However, thinking/fantasizing about being with a man is almost the only way I can get going physically (and boy does it get me going!).

I am almost wonder if I am perhaps one of those very rare ducks that is not really attracted to people per se, but attracted aspects of people (femininity) and to the feelings they stir in one (men). Femininity is so very wonderful to me, I am often like the poem, I don't know if I want to be her, fuck her, or borrow her clothes, lol. With men, something about their potency, their strength, their swagger is immensely sexy in a way that transcends looks. I feel like I would prefer a long-term relationship with a female (or at least a feminine person). Congruently, I feel like I would need to look to a dominant, very masculine man for sexual satisfaction. So heaven knows how this kind of dynamic could possible work out or even materialize. It ain't easy being complicated.

 

It's a pretty good barometer into how you lie, I'd think.

I primarily fantasize about men myself. Gets me going. I'll fantasize about women too but I'd say it's kind of a 70/30 type deal with men and women respectively.