Hi all! I'm glad there is some place I can talk about things safely. I'm a bit confused. I'm not sure if I'm "bi." You see, I'm not physically attracted to girls but I think I'm in love with this one girl who I've known for a while. I can actually see us getting married. But, I am physically attracted to guys as well. I'm not sure if I could be romantically attached to a guy but I know for sure I'm physically attracted to them. Is anyone else in my situation? I don't know if I'm 'bi' or if I'm just straight and curious? I've been living in a shell and haven't talked to anyone about this really. Thanks for any help! Tyler
I'm glad it's a safe place too! If you're not attracted to girls physically at all, but want to date and kiss them, then you would be biromantic homosexual (with being attracted to guys physically). You might start liking a guy for his personality and such too after finding the right guy, and not just his body. Have you been friends with this girl for a while? Could you find her body attractive sexually? Sidenote: I really adored my ex-gf, but I didn't find her really attractive, which pained me. I hope to find a really nice girl that I can fall in love with, but when it comes to making love...I'm not confident I could do that. Welcome to the confused club!
I read a lot of posts like yours in two big teen forums I'm on and yeah, tons of guys are in your situation. And the advice is always not to worry too much about it. Nobody can read your post and say "I know exactly what you are" and pin an official label on you.
I'm so confused. My heart wants one thing and my body wants another. This girl I'm talking about... I really do love her. Actually I think I'm in love with her. And she says she loves me. And everyone around us says we are the perfect couple and can see our love. But I'm always depressed that I'm not really physically attracted to her - in fact any girl. Yeah I think she's beautiful, but I just don't know if I could "do it" with any girl without thinking about a guy.
Oomph. So it's strictly platonic love. There may be a slight chance that you're bi and are in a guy phase and later will be in a girl phase, but I don't think so. It sounds like you like guys all the way. I'm not sure whether you should tell her that you love her, but you can't be together, or that you love her but she'll have to deal with it always being platonic. Either way, you shouldn't "lead her on" because she's under the impression that you're straight. Good luck. (*hug*)
It's not exactly the same situation since I'm straight but I've thought that I was in love with my best friend before and later realized that it was just a really deep love and attachment to her. I realized this because I also could see marrying someone like her but I have no desire for her physically (though she is gorgeous so, it makes it that much clearer to me that I'm not in love with her). Could it be that you just really love your friend? As for whether or not you're gay, I think you probably will have to wade through that a bit more. If you only desire men physically, it could be that you're not 100% gay or it could mean that you simply aren't ready for/ haven't experienced romantic attraction with a man yet.