Orientation: doubt and confessing

Hey there :smilewave first of all your english is great!

Anyways... I think to start with it wouldn't be the end of the world to tell your friend that you're unsure about where your attractions lie. If you tell her you're questioning, many people go through that and I'm sure she'd be totally cool with it. Plus, I think it could actually strengthen your bond with her since you'd be opening up to her just like she did with you. If you are in big doubt about your orientation, having someone behind you who's probably gone through that and understands it can't be bad. I think telling her you're questioning is absolutely fine.

Whether or not you want to tell her you're interested in her specifically is something that depends a lot on the dynamics in your relationship, which I don't know anything about of course. So in that way it's your call really. You might want to avoid getting in a relationship with her and take some time out to explore your feelings more and do some deeper introspection, which is fine, or you might want to experiment with her and see where it leads. She might be flattered or even offer to help you find out, but if you do want to experiment with her, obviously be upfront with her and say you're not sure about the extent to which you're interested in her and you're not sure how far things will go.

That's my input on handling the current situation. As to knowing whether you're inclined to girls, it's not easy to know for everyone. But drawing from the ideas I've seen on EC, fantasies are one way of making an educated guess. Think about where your mind wanders when you're fantasising without any stimuli (no porn, just you and your imagination). Who features? Mainly girls? Mainly guys? A mix of both? That can give you a fairly solid indication of what your orientation is. Along a similar vein, while you're out in public who do you notice more? Where do your eyes unconsciously wander when you're not pointing them at anything in particular? Basically, letting your mind wander and just noticing the people it naturally gravitates to can give you a strong hint. It's not necessarily that simple to work out, but it should give you a few ideas.

Sorry for that wall of text :lol: but to round up:
a) you don't necessarily have to have been in a relationship to know, lots of people here found out their orientation without relationships. Sometimes paying attention to where your thoughts go when you're not thinking about it can tell you lots, though that isn't true of everyone.

b + c) I think telling her you're questioning is fine, she'll probably understand and support you. However if you tell her you're questioning you don't have to tell your friend you're interested in her specifically if you don't feel ready to do so. If you do feel you want to tell her your interest, as long as you are upfront about the fact that you don't know how far it'd go and you don't give her any false hope, I'm sure she'd be very accepting of it.