I think it can, but I think that has more to do with orientation fluidity than a process of trying to change ones orientation. I do NOT buy into the change your orientation therapies or ministries out there, but I know some people have more fluid orientations. My advice to you is to just love who you love.
I don't see why not. It might not actually change but I can imagine people discover more of their sexuality through time. I have a friend who is lesbian and has a son! I've never asked her how exactly it happened, but I'm assuming at some point she liked men too (I know it's not rape or ivf etc because the father still sees him) and now she doesn't. I wouldn't worry about it, just go with the flow and like who you like
I think understanding of things broadens with time and experience. So in a way it's changing because our understanding of ourselves changes with time, but the foundation of that desire remains the same, if that makes sense. At least that is the way it is for me.
I don't believe you can change it consciously I just ask because growing up I was extremely sexually attracted to women until around 18 then that dissappeared pretty much over night, became basically asexual 7 years later again pretty much over night I'm almost sure I'm beginning to be attracted to guys, the only problem is I'm currently in a relationship with an amazing women but since this happened things don't seem right. This isn't normal right? It's not a case of understanding myself more or realisation this is what's happened. I feel like I'm going crazy. I can't work out what the hell happened
Yes! just like how people change their minds and opinions. Yet, of course there are factors that affect the changing process sometimes when we are getting mature we look at things differently so your perception about things and life will change, even your orientation. Just like the saying goes 'change is the only constant in this world.' so embrace and love it, it's part of life.
I just can't love it. Something in me hates the thought that I could potentially be attracted to my life long friends, I'm forever thinking about my attractions to women were in the past. It kills me when I think about my girlfriend. It's weird if someone had told 17 year old me that this would happen I would have laughed in their faces. I used to kind of like my asexual stage. That feeling of independence was awesome but now I long for my attractions to females to return . Finding guys atractive sucks because it feels like I've lost everything I used to be and who I am.
People say don't label, but society means you must & for me that's fine (just my view) I've never said I couldn't love a woman, you never know what might happen, but how I feel about guys eclipses them so much I cant see it ever happening
I absolutely believe in sexual fluidity. As much as labels serve a purpose for society, they're not written in stone.
Orientation itself probably doesn't change. People's acceptance and understanding of their orientation certainly does, though. So someone can behave as though they're straight for decades before owning they're gay, and of course, people who are bi can go through different phases where they'll be more focused on one sex or the other. And you can see people who have difficulties accepting themselves as gay trying to change themselves and be straight... but according to all the credible research out there, that almost never happens,. and when it does, almost without fail, those people are miserable and the "change" isn't permanent. But you very, very rarely see someone who acknowledges that they are gay going back to opposite sex partners.
Hmm see that's where I feel different. I haven't been in denial I genuinely was straight. And now ove undergone a change. It hasn't been over night. I still can't understand how this could happen I went from a straight male from almost asexual actually over night then 7 years layer my attractions ro guys come on literally over night I feel like I'm the only person this has ever happened to. Logically I would have to think I would be bisexual and things changed because every intellect thought I have in my brain tells me changing can't happen.
I doubt that true orientation can change but rather people realize their orientation as time goes by. Just a guess though, I'm still trying to figure things out anyway.
I have seen some people come out of tempestuous marriages in which they were on the receiving end of the abuse. Personally, most of the people I've known exiting such marriages were women and then were apparently lesbian after this, either embracing it or simply being lesbian, avoiding another marriage, and not seeking a relationship with a woman, either. This could have been for religious reasons. From the stories their kids (my friends) told me of what happened in their households, I wonder if this could have pushed them over this edge, but some predisposition needed to have been there in the first place. I believe some psychologists and psychiatrists acknowledge this can happen. My high school psych. book, used during senior year, mentioned this as one factor within various possibilities in the chapter on sexuality. The book was fine. Its approach was very clinical and not judgmental. I don't even think the experts know for sure. I do believe that negative experiences can have an impact on a person and some sort of aversion or deconditioning sets in.
It's so bizarre to actually think this has happened. My family and the few friends I have told as well as me still don't believe it's happened and that it's all in my head. But it's quite possible this has happened. Has anyone got any experience in this? Does anyone know of sudden changes in orientation? Even though being bisexual would suck I would take it if only my attractions yo women came back. I miss them so much I'm in a state of mourning. Is it possible that could happen? Or did my.constant ocd worries open something that was latent and now I'm stuck like this? I just need to figure this.out. My girlfriend will be visiting me in a few weeks and I'm so scared. We were deeply in love and now it feels weird. I'm still yet to feel any type of arousal over watching gay porn and I have tried 100s of times the last few months or thinking about guys, is that normal?
Can it change? Yes. Has this happened before to me? Probably not. I think my "change" was really just getting over my denial that I'm a lesbian.
Yeah I'm just going to stop you right there. Having sex and even having a child with the opposite sex DOES NOT necessarily indicate sexual orientation. Someone can be in a long term relationship with the opposite sex knowing that they are gay or lesbian but keep themselves closeted out of fear. Some people don't fully realize or understand that they are gay or lesbian until something happens in their lives that forces them to come to terms with who they really are. So if your friend says she is a lesbian, do not ASSUME she was once something else just because she has a child.
What are your opinions about actually changing back to the orientation I was born with? Is this.likely to ever happen? ---------- Post added 12th Apr 2014 at 08:24 PM ---------- I don't mean right wing christian change I mean natural change
