At this point, I pretty much identify as a lesbian. However, I, too, have sexuality issues partially relating to the porn I watch. I usually watch straight porn, but while I'm usually attracted to the girl's face and boobs and genitals, watching the guy go down on her just doesn't do anything for me. The actual intercourse is pretty good, but the main turn-on for me is if the female gives the guy a bj. Part of me is afraid this actually means I'm bisexual, but another part of me wonders if it's even related to orientation. I don't really want to give a bj - I mean, I might try it, but it doesn't sound like an enjoyable task to me. This makes me question whether I want to do the dick, or whether I want to have one. it's not just porn, though. While I don't know what to make of the bj thing, I am still turned on by the idea of being penetrated by a man (though I do not particularly like the idea of penetrating a girl), and while the idea of having a man orally stimulate me repulses me, at the same time it attracts me. Is this simply conformation to the so-called laws of human nature or societal pressure? I am not attracted to a man's personality, his face or his body, nor the appearance of his dinglehopper. I just want it inside of me, and nothing else to do with any of it. For reference, I am a virgin, and am not about to go out and experiment.
Sexuality is a very dynamic issue and having a few tastes outside of the orientation you identify as doesn't necessarily change that orientation. Furthermore, the type of porn and activities in it are also not accurately indicative of orientation. For example, I wouldn't watch gay porn and don't get anything from watching 2 guys being intimate. However, I could imagine myself in an intimate situation with a guy if he was the right person. I'd say try not to get too hung up on labels and what small nuances in tastes you have. Just find someone you like and are attracted to and take it from there. Hope this helps, Happy days
While I don't think watching porn of different genders indicates sexuality, you do seem a bit bi-curious to me.
Sounds bi curious but oral sex with guys is not enjoy able as it looks on porn I can tell you that for sure .
Yeah, I know porn isn't an indicator, which was why I was talking more about fantasizations and stuff. Ahh, an interesting conclusion to draw... I had not considered that to be an option, due to the fact that bi-curious usually implies deviation from straightness and occasional sexual interest in the same sex. Is there a separate term for the other way around, which does appear to apply to me, or is it simply an unofficial blanket term under which it would be unwise to publicly identify due to cishet misunderstanding?
You mentioned that the idea of having a penis penetrate you is a turn on, but everything else about men is not, and that most things about men repulse you even if you are a bit curious. You may be bicurious, but keep in mind that is normal for people who are gay to have heterosexual thoughts at least every once in awhile, or that is what I think, at least. I think porn tends to make sexuality even more complicated to figure out. You mentioned that the idea of having a girl penetrate you isn't really a turn on. What about with a strap-on or a dildo, etc? It's not the same as a penis but it's similar and it completely takes the man thing out of the equation.
Sounds like to me you are just getting hot over the act of giving. I love to read erotica, about straight sex, but I don't find watching it a turn on. I love to see lesbian sex, that really turns me on. Reading it also. I find two guys giving BJs a turn on also. These things are all part of my sexuality, but it does not impact that I am a Queer Femme. I am with a woman and that is that. I most certainly would not leave her for a man, but if I saw a guy going down on another one in a parking lot, I would go home and bang my wife and be really hot for her.
Lol I'm not watching too much porn.. I rarely watch it more than 2-3 times a week, and not for a long period at a time. I'm not sure about the dild/strap-on idea. It could work, I think, but I don't know if it would be as good. -.- the phrasing bicurious does make a lot of sense for me, even though it also reinforces my confidence in labelling myself as a lesbian for all intensive purposes. Thank you to everyone who replied!
This would have been my guess. Are you aware, Querying, if you identify more with the male or the female during these scenes of fellatio? If the latter, no reason to doubt your queerness. The dick is just a body part to give pleasure to and if its "disembodied" form is what interests you, as opposed to the person/gender it's attached to, I wouldn't necessarily call this bisexual, or even bicurious. Have you ever seen transwoman porn, perchance? I hate to recommend viewing a porno as a method of further investigating your sexuality, but there is a possibility it might reveal something. Either way, hope you find the answers you seek.
Oh I wasn't suggesting that you're watching too much porn, lol. I mean for everyone in general I think it makes things a bit more confusing, that's all I'm saying. Anyway, I get what you're saying.
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I haven't seen transwoman porn. Perhaps I'll take a look - thank you. That's the thing - for most things, I put myself in the role of the female, but for that, yeah, I am identifying more with the male, I think. But for everything else, I do consider myself to be female - I like having boobs and all. At the same time, though, looking at myself, I can see that I would have gotten along just fine had I been born with a male body. So summing that up, I do identify as a female, but I feel as if I could have identified as a male pretty much equally well had I been born one.
Real life is rarely as enjoyable as fiction, which is what most porn is. I myself have never directly gotten enjoyment from giving oral to anyone. What is enjoyable to me is giving pleasure to the person I'm giving it too. I know how good it feels to receive it, so I want to give that also to the person I'm with. The key word being "giving". Some straight bj porn is not giving oral at all, it's the guy grabbing the woman's head and using her mouth as like some kind of substitute vagina, If she gags, that just increases the guys pleasure, at least on video. If a person whose never experienced sex watched some porn, they could get a really messed up idea of what real men and real woman want.
I think experimenting with a man is a possibility. I also think strap-ons are a possibility. I always thought sex toys were more pleasurable/better than an actual penis since they can come in different sizes, and many are geared for clitoral stimulation and/or G-spot stimulation. A lot of women rarely, if ever, orgasm from an actual penis entering them.
