Ok, so I have been trying to figure this out for a while now and I'm a little bit stuck. So I'd like to get the input of the group. Based on this info, would you call me a lesbian or bisexual and why? Physical attraction: I find girls a lot more physically attractive than boys. I looked at 50 pictures each of girls and boys. Of the boys, I found about 10 attractive and of the girls I found about 40 attractive. I look at girls a lot more on the street - barely even notice guys unless they have one of a few specific features. I made a list of the things I find attractive about boys and girls. For boys, it was long hair, bald guys, and more drawn toward non-whites (I am white). For girls it was boobs, legs, butt, and more drawn toward non-whites. Sexual attraction: In writing down and thinking about stuff from before I was married, I realized that I'm demisexual. I don't really want to have sex with people unless I have an emotional connection of some type with them. Romantic orientation: Not really sure here. I've been with men and women in relationships and felt unfullfilled by both. I'm not sure I could ever have an emotional connection with a man, and I'm sure that my husband and I don't have any chemistry or emotional connection. He is a good friend and a good partner, but no spark. Sex: I've had sex with both men and women and enjoyed it. With my husband it's difficult for me to get into it at first but I can get turned on by the touching. I wouldn't say that I don't like sex with men but I do sometimes fantasize that my husband is a woman when he is 'down there'. I also get super turned on by the women in porn - mostly the noises they make. I don't really get turned on by two women together but I feel that it's not very realistic so I'm not sure that's an important factor. I've always called myself bisexual but lately I've been thinking I'm a lesbian. I definitely seem to prefer women physically and it's really difficult for me to explore the other areas because of being married and very isolated. What do you guys think, and do you have any advice for me to continue to try to figure this out?
