Ya see I identify as bi for the following reasons:no.1 I look at a pretty woman and I find her attractive but have no interest in having sex with her:no.2 I look at a fit guy and I imagine myself having sex with him and being intimate. Does this sound like I'm bi? cos I'm a bit mixed up right now.
Mmmmmm that's interesting. I think about guys like a LOT but it really scares me to take that first step. I had a gay experience when I was younger and it's stayed with me ever since.
You could be a bi-romantic homosexual. Can you see yourself dating a woman? Or are you just attracted to her physically? How do you feel about dating a guy?
Yeah I'd say as far as sexual attraction you are gay. I have those hetero romantic feelings from time to time myself but I have no desire to put my general's anywhere near theirs.
I've dated a woman before and although we had a good relationship it did kinda feel like we were more mates than anything at times. And as far as men go I want to do all the sex and kissing and going out on dates and what have ya but I'm scared it's gonna be too weird waking up next to a man, or being sat across from man on a date, or locking lips with another man. What if I bottled it and did a runner? What if I just start laughing? As much as I really, truly want all that I can't helped but be a bit freaked out.
I'm really scared too, I've never dated a guy and where the idea is really a turn on, it also scares me thatit's gonna be really awkward. But I still want it really bad.
That's exactly how I feel! Also I'm not ya 'typical' gay guy. To look at me and hear me talk you'd never guess I had feelings for other guys.
It makes sense why you're struggling. When you don't really identify with "queer culture," it can really screw with your head like: am I really (____)? I don't feel queer so, maybe I'm just (___)? But it does sound like you're gay. If you don't want to be intimate with a woman, then even if you find them attractive, functionally, you're gay. Maybe the awkwardness you're worried about is thinking if you were with a guy like yourself who isn't "obviously gay." Maybe your attraction to women is to their femininity and you'd feel comfortable with a femme guy. Just a thought...
I could see that as well, that might be the reason I had such a hard time coming out as well. I never enjoyed clubbing, I hate reality shows, I am pretty much a skinnier more attractive version of Brian from the Sarah Silverman show. Except I like all music like that, not just metal.
Mmmmmm that makes sense actually. I could see myself having sex with another guy like me though, just not being in a relationship. In fact I had a hunky plumber come to service my boiler yesterday and ya don't wanna know the thoughts that were running through my head lol. I can identify with that. I'm not into shopping or reality shows and stuff like that. Although I must say my taste in music is very 'gay' and I much prefer the company of women to straight guys.
Well my suggestion, get yourself out there, let you be yourself and start"exploring" your identity, find a guy who you feel is super sexy, ask him out, I mean if nothing else online dating is a viable option.
