This will come off across as homophobic. But as someone who is most likely gay. I'm 21 and never had sex. I could go out with a some stranger if I wanted to, but I don't want to. Why is that? I care about connections as well, that's more important. Men in my opinion are much easier to communicate with. I am attracted to men more many reasons. One reason being this animal nature that takes over our rational minds and we descend into lower brain function and go crazy. I love that about men, because I have a submissive nature and I enjoy it. I just don;t take pride in it, because it seems to animal for my taste. Again I never had sex or dated a man before. But I know that I'm attracted to them. I have no spiritual issues with homosexuality. In my own psyche, it's not fully accepted.