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23 male need advice

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by dmb, Apr 27, 2014.

  1. dmb

    dmb
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    I've recently really been questioning my sexuality. I am very interested in something long term with a specific girl and it would be unfair for her to not have myself worked out before. I have traditionally always thought of myself as straight but people have asked me if I was gay before or just assumed I was. I was a college athlete, in a fraternity, and am now in a prestigious med school. I was raised in a religious, small town but my parents were not religious at all and did not raise me to be.

    When I was young, (5-10 ish) I did not differentiate between genders I recognized both men and woman as attractive. I remember looking at magazines and liking either. Notably I also had to take special classes in school to learn to interact socially; I was a very awkward/ strange child.

    With a few exceptions, I've normally had more girl than guy friends. I dated girls throughout middle and high school. I also started watching porn when I was around 15. I started with and usually watch straight porn but focus mainly on the guy. Very recently I've tried watching gay porn within the past few months while I am trying to figure it out and I usually end up switching back to straight.

    The main reason I am confused right now is my college dating history. I've never had sex. But after nights of drinking in college i'd go home with a girl and about half the time I was not able to get/keep an erection. I do not know if this was because I was drunk or am just not attracted to girls.

    Recently, one of my best male friends (he was my "little" in my fraternity, I know it's dumb but greek life) confided in me that he was gay. We were paired bc we have so much in common and people joke that we actually were brothers and on a few occasions have thought we were dating.

    I'm afraid I might just be so far in denial that everyone else can tell I am gay but me. I also have always pictured myself having a family in the future and that family usually includes being with a woman.

    Any advice on what I should do/ your thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
     
  2. Reyo2029

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    I'm in the same situation, people think me and my friend are secretly dating. We're both masculine, though he has his moments, and we go out and do things couples would do together, but there's no title so whatever. I see my self having a family too but I'm just living in the moment right now