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I think I'm Biosexual, or maybe turning Gay? Advice/Help Needed!

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Early Puberty, Apr 29, 2014.

  1. Early Puberty

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    Hi, I have a lot of questions, I’m think I’m bisexual or discovering that I’m gay, not sure, here is all clues of me being bi/gay listed in order;
    6-9 Years Old:
    Here is when I think I discovered that I was bi/gay but didn’t know the word of it and I´m not sure if I am gay/bi but anyway, let’s get started.
    When I was 6 years old me & my family moved from my original home to a new one, at the new school I met at guy, let’s call him “Dan” for now(not his real name). Dan and I fast turned friends and we both had a big hatred against a girl who was super annoying against only me and Dan. The most considerable gay think we did was that we saw two girls that had changed clothes with each other, so we did the same, we rushed into the toilet locked the door changed the clothes and for some random reason we kissed, a long tongue to tongue kiss, 4 seconds maybe? Anyway it felt awesome which I can remember but we decided to not tell anyone, we were not in a relationship, we only kissed each other?
    When I was about 7-8 years was when the “dating season” was active, first of all I girl asked me if I wanted to be her boyfriend I said yes and we kissed, now I didn’t have feelings for her of course, but a kiss should feel good am I right? It didn´t, I got grossed out and she ended the “relationship” after 1 hour.
    Now to a longer “relationship” which was 3 weeks long, It started at a class party were I was a “kiss monster” and then I finally caught a girl and I kissed her and she kissed me back, again I was grossed out, I don’t know why I would even try to kiss someone if it is not a nice feeling which It wasn’t, anyway she wanted to be in a relationship with me I just said yes to not hurt her feelings she kissed me more times which wasn’t enjoyable either, but after 3 weeks she decided to dump me and I was happy.
    Everyone nice in our class started getting bullied including me and that got me to change school, even though it is much longer way too the new school it was worth it, because all the nice people were going to change school as well.
    10 Years Old-present:
    Anyway, at the new school I was in 4rth grade and I turned 10 years old when I started in the new school. I got some friends but had beloved myself with two girls in the class, “Love 1” was a quiet girl who read book after book and “Love 2” was a very smart girl and also a good dancer. When I turned 11 I wasn’t in love anymore.
    There was not anyone like me in our class so I was kind of lonely, I had to act like something I wasn’t.
    And also when I turned 11 that’s when 5 people started bullying me on this school as well, but that stop in the beginning of this year when I gave their leader a good beating whilst he was throwing a ball onto my head several times(yes this has to do with the questions at the end even though It doesn’t seem like it).
    Now at 3rd april I started acting like I was gay and tell everyone I was gay in a game I play, I don’t know why but I enjoyed being gay, even though I wasn’t, or maybe I am? I don’t know. But that is the reason I came to this forum, I’ve done a lot of gay tests(that probably didn’t work) and goten the answer “bi” or “straight”, but I’m not done yet, now we’re at the point of where I am today, right now we have a 6 days holiday and the only day we were at school this week was on Monday when we have needlework, I sat at the same table I always sit at and suddenly one of my friends started telling one of my other friends a joke, I joined in laughed smiled and got “nervous?” even though his jokes wasn’t funny and I got nervous? Why. o.o
    We were not even that good friends but I just liked talking to him it felt nice and I think I felt real love for the first time, only for like 2 seconds though(I don’t have any feelings for him right now when I think of it), he smiled back and then kept telling his jokes, I didn’t say anything more, and I don’t think anyone noticed.
    Now to the questions:
    1: What do you think, am I gay, bi or straight?
    2: Should I stop doing what I do in the game I play, it is kind of my hobby atm, I’m weird like that.
    3: Let’s pretend I was gay, I hear a lot of the boys in my class say “fucking gay shit” a lot of the times and what if the bullies would start bullying me for being gay, advice needed!
    4: Should I tell my parents, maybe I should wait after puberty or what do you think?
    5: DOES ANYONE KNOW HOW TO DELETE POSTS? I posted like either 2 or 3 of these already, which all was either at the wrong section or just very unclear and hard to read, here is the reworked one atleast.
    Thank you for reading, I am kind of desperate in search of answers It is bothering me a lot atm.
    :bang: :help: :confused:
     
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    To be honest I don't think you parents will take you seriously at your age. I tried to come out when I was fourteen and they didn't take me seriously. It sounds like you're attracted to boys, but it's hard to know if you like girls. I'm almost eighteen and I still can't tell if I'm gay or bi.
     
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    I haven't watched straight porn in months, just found out I don't feel anything when I watch it, I used to watch is to get an idea how it is to be turned on, now I use porn to indentify what the I'm attracted to, I think I might be gay, so far that is what I think.
     
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    Just don't watch too much porn. If you watch too much porn it will really mess with your mind and make you way more confused than you were before.
     
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    I wont watch more, I don't like it anymore at all, Think it's kind of disgusting tbh, I didn't even want to watch it but as I said, I'm desperate.
     
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    And by the way, I have heard of this weird rumor that you can tell if you´re gay from you fingers or something, I'm 99% sure it's a lie, but if the rumor is actually true(sorry if I offended someone, I feel like I don't belong here really)I would be gay because my fingers are exactly what it says they're supposed to be, a coincidence maybe, if I am gay so to say.
     
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    You could write a book of things that are supposed to tell you whether or not you're gay. That book would belong in the garbage.
     
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    Okay, so you mean I can't get help from the website? You mean I'll just let it go as it goes?
     
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    The "finger thing" does give an indicator of how much testosterone you were exposed to in the womb, which scientists seem to find some correlation with whether someone who was born male or female will later identify as having same sex attractions...however, it is not a hard and fast rule. It is a tendency.
     
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    Thanks for your help clearafying that! ^^
     
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    No problem. :slight_smile: If you google "finger length ratio & homosexuality," you will likely find reports on some of the studies which you can read for yourself.
     
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    I did some research & found out that it's more common that the right hand affect you, and my right hands fingers are almost exactly as high, but the index finger is just an inch higher, ty again! :grin:
     
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    You're welcome!
     
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    Well, you are pretty young and i understand that you are curious and really want to find out right now. The best advice i can give you is: Give it time, sexuality isn`t something you figure out in a couple of weeks or days. You need to give it more time and learn from your own experiences. You are still very young and i guess you have starterd puberty not so long ago. I know it might be hard to wait and give it time, but that is the way it works. And also you know yourself best, if you are pretty shure you like boys and you feel like that is right, maybe you are gay then? As i said you are pretty young, and you`ve got a lot of years in front of you to experiment and figure out who you are. :slight_smile:
    Oh and all the tests and such you can find online about if you are gay or not: Don`t believe them. They are false. You can`t tell your sexuality trough tests someone made up online.

    (btw if you found typos you wanted to correct on your post, you can edit them instead of posting it all over again :wink: )
     
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    Thanks for your advice and ofcourse I know it takes time for me to understand sexuality, for example it's not like I want to have sex or anything(yet) but I hope you get my point.
    And now for the most "important" part, how do I change the typos without posting it all over again? :wink:
     
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    Well down on the right on your post, there will be a button named edit. Just simply clik that and you are free to edit your text again. when you are done you can just press save. :slight_smile:
     
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    I think the edit button goes away after 15 minutes. However, instead of posting it all over again, just write little corrections separately. I didn't actually notice any errors in the original that made it more difficult to understand.
     
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    Hi,

    I wouldn't put a lot of stock in the finger test, nor would I assume that your parents won't believe you if you decide to tell them.

    As far as figuring out if you're gay, the most reliable test is where your attractions lie...

    -- when you're out at the beach or the gym or the pool, just wandering around, are you looking more at boys or at girls?

    -- When you masturbate without porn, are you thinking about boys or about girls?

    -- When you look at straight porn, are you looking more at the guys or at the girls?

    From the above, it's usually somewhat obvious in one direction or the other where your attractions lie. If it's more toward guys, then it's a pretty strong indication you're gay, or at least on the gay side of bi. If it's equal attraction to both, you're bisexual, and if it's mostly toward girls, you're likely straight.

    Many people do have a clear idea as young, or even younger, than you. Your parents might be a bit skeptical, but increasingly parents are aware that their children can have understanding of their sexual orientation pretty early, so I think if you decide you're ready to tell them, you can present it in a way that you've thought about it for a long time, and are pretty certain, and most likely they'll believe you.

    Hope this helps!
     
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    Ty, that really helped me out, now if I think about those questions I would surely be gay, but I'm going to wait telling my parents, I am soon 1 years older and MAYBE I will tell them at that point, maybe not.