I don't want to be attracted to males!!!

I'm not voting simply because the answer can only be figured out by yourself.

Anyway, despite that, it's clear you're not straight at least. You talk about masturbating to gay porn which is a clear indicator of that. Apart from that I can't really think of anything else to say there.

 

You sound "guilty gay" to me. You are attracted to men yet feel guilty about it so, you're trying desperately to not be gay. I do not think that marrying a woman would be appropriate.

 

Re: Can I ever be happy ? Please help

I'm going to be 100% honest and do my best to be 100% responsible here.

Let's see...short answer to your title question: yes, you can ever be happy. But that decision lies in you, not in us.

But there is no way anyone can responsibly determine or even have an opinion on someone else's sexuality from this kind of description...there's really no way anyone but you can determine your sexuality from *any* amount of information.

It sounds like you're having a confusing time of it...and that's normal for your age (hell, it's still normal for my age).

What I truly suggest (and I say this from personal experience) is that you find some good counseling...dunno what might be available at school...dunno whether you feel ok talking to your parents about lining some up for you...but whoever and however it's done, it's worth doing, and it's worth finding a counselor who specializes in LGBT issues (specializing in LGBT youth/adolescence would be best). If they're any good, they won't be able to determine your sexuality either...but they will be able to give you guidance and some tools so that *you* can figure it out.

If that doesn't seem like an option for you, or isn't something you're willing to consider, then my next best advice is to forget about putting a label on your sexuality and just date/experiment with whoever seems attractive at any given moment. You'll figure out soon enough what you like. In the meantime, you are young...don't make any life-changing decisions or get married before you figure it out...but you have plenty of time.

Good luck, and keep in touch!

 

Re: Can I ever be happy ? Please help

Hi Jason :smilewave
I mean u can really have any type of life u choose. I couldn't answer your poll bc I would have to say your bi sexual but I can't say if it's a preference for either I would say 50/50 anyway marriage might not be such a great idea bc maybe some night you'll want the d and other nights you'll want the v. But I think the next step is to go to 2nd base and then see who u really like.

Good luck

 

as Pluvia said you are the only one who can truly figure this out. based on what you said you are most likely not straight but past that it is impossible to say as there is much more left than just bisexual or gay. you may not fit either of those. as those make the assumption that you have matching romantic and sexual orientations.

Take your time and you will figure it out. maybe try to go on a few dates and see which feels right.

 

Re: Can I ever be happy ? Please help

///I don't think your sexuality has fully defined itself yet, and that you need to do some dating and have some interactions with other people of both sexes in order to come to an understanding of your sexuality as it develops and defines itself. Trying to pin yourself down is nice, for people who know for sure, but if you don't, better to just keep quiet for now, until you do.

 

Well you have to know though that since you post in a coming-out forum, most people here will not assume that you are straight, simply because most people on this forum are not straight. Everything you say could be interpreted as gay, but as straight as well. Having crushes on actual guys in your real life and fantasizing sexually and willingly about them is the only thing from all the information you gave that lets me really supsect you might be gay, but hey, that's just me. (I had to laugh about you providing your hobby list and expecting us to extract your sexual identity from that ). But anyway, doing a poll about your sexual identity and basing your perception on the outcome is riddiculous.
You are only 15. Give it time, it can go in one or another direction.

 

I believe Youp means in general, not the specific sub forum. Sexual & Romantic Orientation is the right sub forum for a topic such as this.

 

Actually, regardless of where you *intended* to post, this thread was originally posted in the "LGBT Later in Life" forum, and it was moved here (to "Sexual and Romantic Orientation"), presumably by the mods.

 

I agree with this, you seem very in denial too~ you are trying to hold onto any slight thing that you might be straight, a lot of people do this... In the end its your life and choice but i believe you are gay in denial~

^.^

 

Hi Jason, having read through this here's the short & sweet version of my advice:

Obviously you aren't 100% confident of what your sexuality is (or else you wouldn't be asking us this). If you ever want to be 100% confident of your sexuality, you're going to have to reach a point where you're accepting of yourself no matter what your orientation is. It's not an easy process, but luckily you're young and can easily spend years getting there. Until you can honestly say "If I turn out to be gay I would be fine with that," there will always be the suspicion that you're just talking yourself into the attraction to women. If you're comfortable with the possibility of living in a same-sex relationship your whole life and even then you still find women attractive, then you could be confident you're bi.

(OK, less short & sweet than I intended )

 

Well if one prefers gay to lesbian porn, it could be for the penetration which is surely highly arousing for most people. But straight people really just don't like gay porn usually. Sure, they can get off, but porn is made for getting off. I could get off to Granny and dog porn as well. I think what Counts is if you would like to Take Part of that Scene and whose Spot you would Like to have.