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Will I ever be happy

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Jason1998, May 2, 2014.

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In your opinion, which label do you feel fits me best

  1. Gay all the way!

    1 vote(s)
    20.0%
  2. Bisexual (enough to have successful relationships with both genders)

    3 vote(s)
    60.0%
  3. Straight

    1 vote(s)
    20.0%
  1. Jason1998

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    This is an edited version of my feelings/sexuality because the last one wasn't clear

    Please help me. Tired of this confusion
    Here is everything. Please please help me. All the cards are layed out.
    I am 15 years old.
    All my life, I have been called girly and gay because I act somewhat like
    It. I sort of blame it on the atmosphere I grew up which was mostly women.
    From ages 7-8, my sister dressed me up as a girl and made me act like one and I had a lot of fun. I had a boyfriend who I really didn't have sexual attraction for at that age, it was just fun to act like that. From what I remember I got really in character, and acted well.

    Anyways, my parents were very homophobic all my life and always taught me
    Not to be gay.
    Starting at the age of 10 is the earliest gay thought I remember.
    From that age, until several months ago, I thought I was gay but gave it absolutely
    No thought. I masterbated to men, watched gay porn, had several crushes on guys, and fantasizes about them all the time. I think I may have had several attractions to men before them but maybe repressed it due to family circumstances and just being young


    A couple of months back, I started to reevaluate
    My life and think about it, and realized that I was bisexual leaning towards males.
    I have had many many crushes on women as well, as well as obbesions.
    I could masterbate to hetero fantasies and hetero porn ( me looking at the women), just as well but it takes more time. Lesbian porn doesnt arouse me at all
    I have had many stronger crushes on women then with males. But with women, the crush fell more emotionally as well as sexually.

    For example, I fell in love with Elizabeth berkley. Mostly her
    Personality. I found her amazingly nice and started to act like her a little because I was so in love. Then I saw the movie showgirls, and was very attracted to her character, the stripper. I masterbated to it quite a few times as well.

    I also had some crushes on guys such as gale Harold and zac efron. These crushes were not that big, and the thing is, i didn't want to be on a relationship though, just found them attractive.

    I also am currently in love with kourtney kardashian. I have strong sexual and physical and emotional urges towards her.



    Now I am confused with who to be with in the future. I am not comfortable not being straight at all and feel that I can never be in a gay relationship. In that prospect, women have my heart.


    Sometimes, when I look at women, and see how beautiful and smooth their bodies are, they are my winners. But other days, it's like that with men.

    With women, when I have fantasies I get physically aroused( boner) but I don't get that feeling of horniness. With men I do. With men I can come much faster but the orgasm is usually stronger with females

    But with women, I want an actual relationship and right now, I do like a girl more emotionally. I don't find her attractive, because she really is not to put it in a nice way. But talking to her makes
    Me forget, and all the pain goes away.

    With guys, especially cute, I get very anxious and nervous, probably because I don't know them. But it's an uncontrollable feeling even if I don't find them so attractive. The same feeling goes with women as well who I find very attractive and intimidating.

    I will not tell this to any of my family members or future wife. I also really get aroused when a male tells me he masterbates or gay solo sex- I get very excited aroused mostly because I feel cool and not the only one who does it. So it's more of a fitting in kind of thing

    I just feel like with a women, sometimes, something is missing which is the masculinity features of a men. But with men, there is something missing as well which is the softness that women posses.

    I don't want to try to have a relationship with guys now.

    Some people who answered previously felt I was gay in denial, yes I feel uncomfortable with being gay, but I am very honest with myself and if I knew I was truly gay I would know. I feel that there is hope for women as well.
    But I just don't want to, yes maybe some sexual
    Relations, but at the End of the day I want to be with women

    So I am sexually attracted to both with a preference for men, but overal, preference for women


    My biggest fear is getting married, having kids, and realize I'm gay and have to divorce my wife.


    Gay sex:
    Just like oral, mans basic masculinity, sexual noises they make, and their touch


    Women:
    Vaginal sex, creative sexy sex positions (jacuzzi, shower, bedroom), their breasts, women's body movements and basic excitement of getting caught and being naked

    I hate fashion, malls, musicals, plays, singing.
    I love dancing (ballroom), drama, gossip




    Attached is a poll. Please answer it and be 100% honest. Your opinion counts
     
  2. Yosia

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    You seem 110% sure you are not gay so why do you keep questioning it? You have pretty much got the answer if what you are saying is true...
     
  3. Jacob D

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    you could be bisexual based on what you've said.
     
  4. Linux Lenny

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    Yes you will be a lot happier just accept yourself :wink:
     
  5. Jason1998

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    Accept myself as what?
     
  6. Youp

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    As what you want. Does it matter if you label yourself as gay if you carry on chasing women?
     
  7. Linux Lenny

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    As what you are :slight_smile:
     
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    Just want to give a comparison of sorts for you to think on. I spent 2/3 years questioning whether I was or wasn't trans. Eventually I realised that if the feeling that I was trans didn't go away after that long, then it was probably true.

    And since accepting it I've been much happier :slight_smile:

    But keep in mind, you're 15. Some people don't know their sexuality by the time they're 25, so don't worry too much about figuring it out now. And do you need a label? If you like someone, there's more to it than there body right?

    So really, don't worry about being sure if you are/aren't gay. I still haven't worked out if I'm gay or bi, but I've decided to say to hell with the label and what happens happens :slight_smile:
     
  9. KnownSecret

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    I can relate to this as well. I spent a lot of time questioning if I was gay, or if I was just confused. When I turned 17 I was still on the subject of me being gay, but now it was more on the line of how I was going to come out of the closet and how I was going to find the courage for that task as well.

    To the question will I ever be happy, well that's completely up to you. As people above me have said, if your honest to yourself you can be happy. Do the things that you love and you will find happiness, but the first step is being honest with yourself.

    For the poll all I can say is that the only person that can know your sexuality is you, but remember as Calix said you are only 15, and sometimes finding who you are can take time. Just be yourself :thumbsup:
     
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  10. Jason1998

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    Thank you all