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Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by DinoWine, May 4, 2014.

  1. DinoWine

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    Ok so it's been about a year since I posted anything on here, I now am sure I am gay. All until tonight I was watching gay porn and masturbating but for some reason started watching lesbian porn and alternated between the two. I felt really guilty about doing this because I am happy being gay and really don't think I'm bi at all. I don't fancy any girls at school or look at them on the street because I'm not interested. So I am now confused and not to sure what to think of it. I am hoping that because I felt guilty afterwards that it was just because I was in the moment I suppose. I am constantly worrying about my sexuality all the time because I haven't told any friends and when anyone says anything homophobic I go red and feel anxious/nervous/annoyed, so maybe this is just me trying to deny it!?. I'm not sure what to make of it, hopefully someone will put it in perspective for me. (!)
     
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    so you feel anxiety when you view porn with woman?
    im gay and so do i. im not sure about the 'guilty' feeling specifically, but i Feel Anxiety when trying to be sexually competent towards woman and there aesthetic beauty.

    Im not sure what you are regarding when you say "am i denying it?"

    Denying be straight? well if you dont look at girls sexually then you are not straight, some people Do report these guilty and/or anxiety feelings when trying to be straighter or woman related porn.

    i notice i switch to female porn after watching gay porn primarily with curiousity and hopes ill be attracted to it. but it ends up just being anxiety causing. which is unfortunate. i Am of the few that accepts and understands im gay, but i cant help that i find some woman retardedly beautiful and deviant and find them ideal for a 'straight relationship' atleast emotionally and then realize its wrong because im gay. its like fire and ice
     
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    Lesbians watch gay porn so why can't gay guys watch lesbian porn? Porn has little to no regard to your sexuality. There are gay guys that get married and have children with women too so you watching a little bit of lesbian porn is no big deal. I know I always get kind of a guilty feeling after watching porn with a guy in it so your not alone. However like I've been reasoning with myself there is no reason to ever feel guilty for being aroused ( in the case of a pedophile he should feel guilty if he acts on it and get help even if he doesn't). Because we can't help if we are aroused. Does this necessarily mean you want a romantic or sexual relationship with a woman- not at all! All it means is that it was a sexy moment and you got turned on. But like the person above said the last part makes no sense.
     
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    porn as little to no regard to sexuality? care to provide some evidence? the general consensus is that they are human parts, and so its: which human body type (male or female) you are viewing that cause sexual attraction and happiness at a recognizably higher level than other human body type (male or female) IS the body type you are attacted to
     
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    Gay seems to be on a sexuality spectrum.
    Some gay guys are revolted by the thought of breasts and vaginas, whereas some don't mind them and others get a little bit turned on at the idea of "doing it from the front" or maybe the whole smooth / hairless body thing that women have got going ... which isn't too different from being turned on by smooth guys rather than hairy guys (in my opinion).

    Gay might be your label, but it's a label with dozens of different meanings. In the end, it can mean whatever you want it to mean.
     
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    Ok thanks all, to be honest I'm not even entirely sure what I meant when I said 'am I denying it' it's good to know that what ever type of porn I watch it doesn't affect my sexuality, I know I'm gay so I suppose it doesn't matter what I watch and to be honey I don't think I'll be watching lesbian porn :thumbsup:again anyway!
     
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    as time flows different perspectives on what i means to be gay will be created. in the beginning you have no clue or concept really on the positive vibes and feelings that will be eventually created
     
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    If a man watches lesbian porn does that mean he has transsexual feelings? Porn isn't real sex. It is a fantasy like a movie. It is scripted, directed, edited, and then shown to the public. I could be in love with the IDEA of a man but not actually be in love with men. Another thing is porn often is not made specifically to it's sexuality that it's showing. Lesbian porn often times is made for straight men and not lesbians. A lot of lesbians don't like lesbian porn because they find it degrading and unrealistic. Some instead watch straight or male gay porn. Does that make them not lesbians? No because they might be attracted to the sexual act instead of the people involved. That and they are not attracted to men in real life they are attracted to women. Therefore I think this is significant evidence that porn has LITTLE to no regard to a person's sexuality.
    Here is a link to a post on another website about this
    does porn really determine your sexual orientation? - Asexual Q&A - Asexual Visibility and Education Network