how to be safe on hook up apps

My best advice (which isn't what you want to hear)

-- Delete the app
-- Don't do it.

I mean, if you are really convinced you want shallow, meaningless sex-for-the-sake-of-sex and are willing to accept the various risks that go with it, then hookup apps can be an option. But the truth is, most of the people here who have used them (or other means of doing hookups) have talked about feeling shitty afterwards, and the experience itself being empty.

If you decide you want to move forward, some basic safety:

-- Always meet in a public place first (Starbucks or something)
-- Spend a few minutes talking and get a feel for the person and whether s/he seems trustworthy
-- Always take your own vehicle to wherever you are going
-- Be alert and aware if you are going to the other person's home
-- Try to avoid consuming any food or beverage that you haven't persnoally poured yourself and hasn't been out of your site. Lot of date rape drugs used in these settings.

-- Above all PLAY SAFE. USE A CONDOM NO MATTER WHAT FOR ANY ANAL SEX. Don't get suckered into any excuses about how the guy is safe, or let him show you a test result, or convince you that you're the only one he's ever wanted to bareback with, or whatever. It's all bullshit. Anyone who wants to bareback, barebacks a lot, and puts you at high risk.