This story my see sorta stupid but anyways. I'm not sure if it's a phase or it's acually true but I think I might be gay or bi. I like looking at penises from boys that are my age. I like looking at boys bare butts. I have fantasies sometimes about having gay sex and making out with a boy. And I don't know how my parents would take it if I told them. It's also kinda hard because I am a Christian so I can't have a gay partner but I want one. But at the same time I still want to have a relationship with a girl. and I want to have a wife and kids. Now I'm going to tell u how it all started. So when I was in preschool I used to look at girls crack. And somehow my mom found out so she disciplined me and said that's not ok. And then after that if hardly ever look at girls crack and something just told myself you can't look girls crack maybe you should be more attracted to boys. And that's when I started looking into boys. Looking at nude pics of them. Watching videos of them. And when I was about 12 in 6th grade I had a girlfriend for about 2 months and then she dumped me. Which I was sad about but I didn't cry about it. And when that happened I was really getting involved with boys online with photos and videos. And at my middle school everyone made jokes about my being gay. And I have been dealing with it all the way up to 8th grade and one day I just started to cry about it and my mom asked me what happened. And I just couldn't handle all the jokes. And I told her some of the stuff they were saying and she asked me Are you gay? And I said no because I was mainly leaning toward myself being bi. And today I really thought back to ask myself am I gay? And I took some only quizzes 1 said I am 50% gay and straight meaning I am 100% bi. And another quiz said I am 50% gay so I'm not sure and I need some support.
Sex aside- with which gender do you get an ''emotional buzz''. The same gender,the opposite gender,both genders? You know,that warm fuzzy feeling inside. What I used to do in the past is to try and force myself to just pick a side...in the end though ''forcing'' yourself to feel a certain way never accomplishes anything. Going with the flow of things does though. Any girl/guy crushes lately ? As for relationships-maybe it takes awhile to figure out what it really means to be in a relationship for you.I am still figuring it out haha so do not feel too bad about that or try to analyze too much.
I think you are gay. It's normal you want to have wife and children. You want to have all of this because all people around you have. A lot of Gay people want to heve straight familly. You need time to accept yourself. But you will see everything will be allright.
First I would say, as a taker of many "are you gay" quizzes, you shouldn't base anything off those quizzes. Usually the answers don't accurately relate to you and I have gotten straight a couple time (which I know is not true for me). I would say you should just wait. I understand the feeling of wanting to define yourself as gay or straight or bi. But you don't need to. You can just be attracted to what attracts you in the moment. Also, completely ignore anyone who says anything negative about your sexuality. It is completely not their business and they are dimwitted neanderthals for making jokes about it! Lastly, not to be too gross, but watching different kinds/genders of porn can help you figure out what you are into.
Sounds to me like you are bisexual (assuming you are into girls, didn't say much about them sexually) but maybe just heteromantic? Here is a nice picture that you might be able to point your Kinsey number out with imgur: the simple image sharer
i have dated only girls but I want to try out what its like to be with a guy. Guys turn me on. I dont get turned on by girls. Most of my friends are girls but not really by choice they just ended up being majority of my closest friends. ---------- Post added 15th May 2014 at 07:38 PM ---------- So I used your advice and when i saw nude girls i wasnt hard at all. When i saw nude guys I was hard as a rock.
Porn can help to an extent,but its still not reality. How do you feel when you kiss a girl for example...or chat with a girl that you may find attractive? ---------- Post added 16th May 2014 at 05:29 AM ---------- Another factor- age. I do not know how old you are. Most males go through a homosexual stage (whether they end up being straight,bi or gay later in their lives). Scientific research shows that even quite a number of heterosexual males have had at least one homosexual fantasy as an example.
Mmm...you did mention that girls do not turn you on though... Fair enough. Depending on how long this same sex attraction has been going on and depending on your age,I would just take things slowly for now.
If you are turned on by girls but not by guys, you are most likely gay. But what does it matter? If you want to try being with a guy, do it. You don't have to label yourself right now.
Do what feels right and follow your heart is the only advice I can give at the moment... These things need to be done slowly.
