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Is this too good to be true

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Jason1998, May 15, 2014.

  1. Jason1998

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    So I joined this website to better figure out my sexuality
    But a few things are pretty confusing. Everybody has their own opinions, an I am subjected to disagree with somebody correct? Why do people automatically assume it's denial.??

    Anyways, referring to the real topic here.
    I started questioning weather I was gay or not 5 months ago. Before that, I thought I was gay- masterbated blah blah all to men.
    When I first discovered I knew/felt that there is something in me for women. I never felt truly gay. I felt much more bisexual.
    I started forcing myself to masterbate and fantasize women, but I realized I really enjoyed it.
    Lesbian porn never really aroused me. I also started to open my eyes on the future. I later figured out that I am sexually attracted to females but males a little bit more. But I feel that sex would me more satisfying with females because There's more to do with them.

    The thing is.... These feelings and lust for women all developed after my questioning period..... Is it that I just discovered my sexuality for women?
    I also recognized crushes I have and had on women in the past. I feel I became more aware of my surroundings and with confidence labeled myself bisexual. But some people bet money that I'm just convincing myself to like girls and I'm just in denial.

    Yes I am in denial of my male attraction side, but I definitely have a very good attraction to females.
    Yes I did try to convince myself I wasn't gay in the beginning because I always knew I wasn't truly.


    The question is:
    Where do I go from here?
    I feel that if I marry either sex, some part of me will still be unhappy both sexually and emotionally. I feel that I would be less unhappy with a female honesty.

    But my body responds more to gay porn over lesbian and naked pics of males then females.
    But when I actually open my eyes to males, there isn much that I like: it's more with women. I don't know. I gotta say I was honestly more sure of my sexuality before joining this website. Any advice ?


    Is it too good to be true that I feel so much lust for women now.
     
  2. Chip

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    Jason,

    No offense, but nearly every post you have made of the 35 that have been approved are some variation of the above.

    As I and others have said to you a dozen (probably more) times, the only opinion that matters here is yours. Several people have told you to just wait and figure it out over time. So unless you plan on getting married in the next year or two, waiting and figuring it out seems like great advice since you clearly have no interest in hearing anyone tell you anything other than "you can marry a woman and it will be fine". And I don't think anyone's telling you that.

    So either give it a rest, take the advice you are being given, or ignore the advice and follow your heart. But the incessant posting of nearly identical information every day, yielding the same advice and same answers, is getting really old. It doesn't matter how many ways you ask the same question you are most likely going to get the same answer.
     
  3. Jason1998

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    Oh truly sorry for the 35 posts- my phone kept spazzing on me and I thought I published it and it kept saying error but it obviously wasn't.

    Thank you for you're advice. I also were back to you in my
    Other post please take a look. Thank you again