Hi everyone, I've just joined as I'm at a point in my life now where I'm working on who I am and learning to love me for me. I've never talked to anyone about this before but I think I'm bisexual, the first person I ever had a crush on was a girl, and I've kissed a few girls and rather enjoyed it too. If I watch porn I'll only watch girls, and when I'm having sex I often fantasise it's with a girl. I've only dated men though, and been intimate with men. I mentioned something to my partner recently to see how he reacted and he said that all women are attracted to other women and it's completely normal. I also have never been able to reach an orgasm with a man, and I often wonder if I could with a women. I'm still so unsure I feel like I need to intimate with a women to know but then I know I can't as I have my partner of 5 yrs. any thoughts?
I'm, and i agree to those above, to me it sounds like you are gay, not bi. Don't worry about labels if you find them too confusing, anyway. But, if you are curious about labels: Do you feel attracted to women? And men? I'm not asking if you are able to be intimate with them, i'm asking if you enjoy it and if you are really attracted to them. Don't try lying to yourself because you have a boyfriend. Think about yourself. We are here if you need more help
I agree with the above posts, it does sound like you are gay. However, if you feel like you could be with a guy romantically or sexually, as well as a girl, then you are probably bi. It isn't what kind of porn you watch, or who you've dated, but what you feel that matters. Good Luck!
Thanks heaps for your advice I definitely am attracted to males as well. I feel like I have a type for both sexes-I'm always attracted to strong looking males with big arms, am I'm always staring at girls with long brown hair.. Miranda Kerr is like a fantasy of mine. I'm almost 28 but have only been with 3 people so I'm always wondering if it's my lack of experience that's leaving me so confused and am wishing I was more sexually honest back in my uni days!! I'm just finding this difficult I grew up in an incredibly homophobic household and to this day they still judge. Personally I have absolutely no problem with people being bisexual, gay, lesbian, transgender as I believe we should love people for who they are not their orientation but for some reason I judge myself.
^ Based on this above post, you seem Bi with a preference to girls. As for your homophobic family, if they are like that then simply don't tell them...It aint your fault they are ignorant.
You seem to feel bisexual but with a preference for girls. It must be really hard for you to work through all of this while on a serious relationship. *hugs*
Yeah I'm going to agree with those posted above. You do sound bisexual with a preference for girls. Bisexuality and sexuality in general are rather fluid. But as people have said above, you don't absolutely have to label yourself. What you feel is what you feel. You don't need to label love
Coolies thanks for your thoughts I've thought i was bi for years now but when I spoke to my bf and he said that all girls like girls it made me confused.... And I was trying to work out the difference, from what I've seen above its girls that think other girls are attractive can be straight but girls who would like to be intimate with a girl is bi or lesbian? Does that make sense to anyone? Lol!
I don't think all girls like girls though. I hate how people think it is normal for girls to like other girls but when it comes to guys they don't think the same way. It is just stupid. you like whoever you like. Anyway, about your sexuality. I can only agree with all the above. You seem to be bi but are more attracted to girls. Check out the kindsey scale. It might help you figure out <our sexuality more accuralty. Even though I don'T think it is a very accurate representation of sexuality for many reasons... I think what you mean is the difference between finding someone esthetically beautiful and being sexuallly or romantically attracted to them
Hi I completely agree with this!!!! This is what's been going through my head for ages so I'm finally so relieved to see someone else say it Thanks for your advice
