For a while I thought I might be attracted to men because I was always really nervous around them, but now I'm not so sure. I know I like women, but I'm so confused about my feelings around men. When I'm around guy, whether he is good-looking or not, I feel uncomfortable. I'm always wondering if they are checking me out and if they are I get really awkward and want them to stop. I will also try not to pay too much attention to him. When they think I'm attractive, I feel somewhat flattered but also scared at the same time. If they talk to me, even in not a flirtatious way, I try really hard to seem disinterested in them. Because I'm trying to figure out my sexuality, I often think about how I'd feel kissing them or dating them, but I have little interest in it. However it also doesn't feel wrong. I don't have many male friends (the ones I do have are mostly gay) and I've never had a boyfriend. Your thoughts?
Woah...literally read this and thought I had wrote it!! I am exactly the same way!!! I've also never had a boyfriend and also get uncomfortable around guys. I think it has more to do with insecurities rather than attractions. Girls you feel more comfortable around because you are one and you feel it easier to relate to girls. Guys you don't. You feel like they're checking you out and then you may start to feel insecure which may cause you to feel uncomfortable around them... This is just a theory, but also something I have noticed in myself. I hope that helped a little
You said you aren't really interested in dating guys, I feel the same way. I can date both (perhaps all) genders, but I personally don't feel all that interested in guys. I would say you may be bi, but that doesn't mean you can't have a preferance torwards women. It really is just figuring it out yourself, spend a day, week even, if just sit down and ask yourself if you really are bi. For me, personally, it took about a week to figure it out. If you don't know, just leave it at questioning until you do. It sounds like you might be bi. Just give yourself time. I hope I have been of some help.
I said this somewhere else, but I'll repeat again if it helps: To be bisexual you would enjoy having sex with men or women and have a sexual desire in a man (Even if you're a wait until marriage type it'll count as long as you want it in the future). Lesbians on the other hand only desire to have sex with women; but they can think men are 'hot' in an aesthetic way- and even masturbate to male exclusive porn as long as they don't want to actually sleep with those men. So therefore: A lesbian may feel uncomfortable around men because she doesn't like men and doesn't want them interested. And A bisexual can be the same if she's nervous because she is attracted to them, OR if they're a creepy, unattractive guy or she's a more conservative "doesn't like being hit on men she doesn't know type". The difference is that bisexuals will crave sex with men in someway, lesbians won't.
