Losing your virginity to a women

That's up to your definition of virginity. If you're only counting penetrative sex, was there penetration? If you're counting contact of genitals, or reaching orgasm, or anything else, was it there? Does it count to you as losing your virginity?

 

Well most people would say yes...since you had sex...that's sort of the point.

But as Fennec says it's really up to you. It can be a personal thing.

So if you had sex with a woman, it's up to you if you lost your virginity or not (I suppose). I would say you lost it, but you might not. Just don't go telling somebody else they DIDN'T lose it if they had sex with a woman!

 

Yep, and contrary to sexist beliefs, a penis need not be involved for an act to be considered sexual.

 

Yes.

 

Yes, definitely. But virginity is just a social construct- you define it for yourself.

 

I think it definitely counts! It honestly makes me sad how society instills in us that sex doesn't "count" unless it's with a man and is penis-in-vagina sex. I've been with both a man and a woman, and my experience with a woman was every bit as special and intimate as it was with a man.

Of course, ultimately it's up to you to decide what "counts" as losing your virginity and what doesn't.

 

It does count .:tantrum:

 

I bet all of you were waiting for me to enter this thread, weren't you? JK

My answer is this: YES. It does count.

If you follow the technical definition of virginity, it doesn't count, no. But you know what else doesn't count under the technical definition of virginity? Anal sex between straight couples or gay men, and Penis-vagina sex with the use of a condom.

Hell according to some definitions, I lost my virginity before I even came out of my mother's womb.

Besides, if you're referring to lesbian sex as "sex" and virgin means "never had sex" ....why would it not count?

By law you are considered sexually active when you do the following: Penetration, oral, handjob, any sexual contact. So I think all of this makes you a non-virgin. Arguing otherwise makes no sense because we live in a society with birth control and more rampant STD's. Virginity was originally created so women were chained down as a man's baby making machine (IE: It was created so we knew if the man was the real father, and non-virgin women were sometimes killed or forced into prostitution).

Although personally I would ignore the term virgin completely, because It's outdated. It's like calling people who have pre-marital sex "fornicators".

There are definitely straight people who think sexually active lesbians are still "virgins" but those people can kiss my fucking ass. I have no respect for a person who treats my sexual experiences like they "don't count" but yet if I get raped it magically does. Disgusting.

None of this is meant to cause any offense toward the OP, I'm sure you were just asking an honest question, so I gave you some history. The concept of virginity just gets me so riled up, It's so triggering to so many lesbians and can damage their psyche so badly.

Also, I slightly disagree with the idea people are saying that "It's up to you to define virginity for yourself". I mean fair enough, It's wrong to police labels, but calling yourself a virgin when you've been with women still promotes homophobia and can damage your female partner's self esteem for the rest of her life. I'd like to live in a society where lesbians are more respected and we can say "It's up to you to call yourself what you want" but considering the abundance of this problematic view, I think It's more important to tell people that yes, it DOES count.

 

According to google it depends if there was intercourse. I would say if you consider it sex you lose your virginity. Now what you define as sex is a whole 'nother thing. But I would say yes having sex with a women takes away your 'virginity'. However I think the whole idea of virginity is a little silly. Your first time I think is something special and for me I wouldn't want to be thinking I'm losing something in the process. It's sex something you'll do most likely a lot. It's not some sacred oh don't break the orb kind of thing. So yeah that's my thoughts.

 

Just want to say that everyone else in this thread resolved a lot of fears of mine, so thanks everyone for being awesome.

I think I may have gotten too heated my mistake...virginity is just too damn triggering to me, but even so It needs to be talked about.

 

People have an out dated view of virginity :dry:

 

I'd define sex as "consensual contact between two partners aiming to achieve orgasm"
So yeah! But virginity these days is just a way to say you've had or not had sex. It shouldn't hold the same crap as it used to

 

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I think your definition should be put into the dictionary and every dictionary on the planet .

 

I second this!

 

Virginity is an ancient term that doesn't really apply to society anymore and is glorified in youth. Past youth I don't think it's really relevant. I wouldn't concern yourself with it unless your in a marriage contract and you'll be murdered if your not a virgin XD

 

I would say yes but it depends what you think virginity is.

 

your definition is what counts

 

I personally view "sex" as any sort of genital contact between people for the intent of achieving intimacy or sexual pleasure. So by this definition, mutual masturbation, oral sex, anal sex, etc. all qualify.

I also think the whole concept of "virginity" is a bit outdated, and it's often used for all the wrong reasons... etc. to ridicule or ostracize people who may be sexually inexperienced.