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Not sure if bi??

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Quantum, Jun 10, 2014.

  1. Quantum

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    Im extremely confused with myself. I THINK I'm bi, but I don't know..I've had crushes on guys, but now that I think about it, crushes on girls as well. But denial is making me question wether they were really strong friendships or crushes...

    I find gay couples of both genders adorable, and..meeep...they excite me.
    Two people of opposite genders being in a relationship or having sex just doesn't sound as appealing as same sex.

    I'm still confused though??
    How did you figure it out?
     
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    When you say that you have had crushes on both guys and girls, what do you mean? A crush is different for everyone - sometimes it's just a physical longing, sometimes it's emotional too. What are yours? Do you just really like some people because they're friendly, or do you see them and think they're hot.

    Can you look at an attractive guy and think about tappin' that?
    Can you look at an attractive girl and think about tappin' that?

    If you were in a sexual mood and you were to fantasize about sex with someone, would they be a guy or a girl?
    You say that same gender sex sounds more appealing to you.

    I figured it out because I realized I wasn't attracted to girls, so I took at look at guys and said, "Oh yep! I'm attracted to them."
     
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    OK, forget everything you think you know about relationships and crushes and all that other stuff that people usually think of! Just dump it somewhere and we can come back to it later!


    Imagine you are talking to a guy. He's easy to talk to, and he's fun. You've got things in common. He likes robots, you like robots, his biggest turn-off is historical revisionism, yours is holocaust trivialism, you know the drill.

    You are getting on really well, and as it turns out, he's kind of cute.

    You recognize that you have a crush on this guy. You can see yourself having a fulfilling relationship with this guy and that makes you happy.

    Now ask yourself this question.

    If the same thing happened, but instead you met a girl, how would you feel about that?

    Could you see yourself in a relationship with this hypothetical girl?
     
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    Yep, I think I could. :icon_redf
     
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    OK then.

    So personally, I see sexuality as the labelling of POTENTIAL.

    I have the potential to be attracted to somebody of any gender, therefore I am pansexual.

    It doesn't mean I'm going to find EVERY person I meet instantly relationship material, it just means that if the right person comes along, their gender isn't going to stop me dating them.

    So personally, I would say you could certainly be bisexual...
     
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    Oh, okay. ^-^
    Thanks for helping me!
     
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    Any time...seriously, if you're still not sure feel free to send me a message if you want :slight_smile: