Hey everyone, some time has passed that I've come upon the realization that I'm bi leaning towards females. Though I had this revelation yesterday that I'm turned on by both male & female bodies but only find female faces attractive. If I do find guys attractive it's because they have feminine/androgynous facial features. It's a bit of a dilemma because I can see a shirtless or nude guy and be turned on but look up to see a male face which kills it lol. This results in many same sex fantasies involving a hot body but no face, where with female fantasies there is always a face(I pay more attention to a woman's face than body). Is there any reason why I have an attraction process like this? Thanks for the help
I've read your other posts and there's something that stands out. You seem to be basing your sexuality/orientation/preferences on porn and/or fantasies. Have you ever acted on either of your attractions? e.g. kissed a girl/guy, had a girlfriend/boyfriend? Also, do you find trans women attractive?
I've had girlfriends in my life and enjoyed being intimate with them so I'm sure I'm attracted to women. When it came to men in public that I liked, I was a bit shy to do anything since I'm still not used to these feelings and expressing them in the open. I'll check them out but nothing beyond that so far. Though if I'm attracted to a guy in public and an attractive woman appears, I'll 99% of the time switch my attention to the girl. No I don't find trans women attractive(only the face if feminine), it just looks too different to me, I think male genitalia looks better on male bodies, same goes for females.
Could you handle being in a life-long relationship with a women and never acting on your same-sex attractions? If the answer's yes, then maybe you should just follow that path for now. If the answer's no, could you be comfortable with 'not knowing' until such time as you have a same-sex experience? Also, as for your question about your reason for having an attraction process like this. I think a lot people who are discovering their sexuality/orientation/attractions go through something similar. Especially if they're not exclusively opposite sex attracted. They look for things that they like about both sexes until they find out which attribute is the most important to them. Even if that attribute is the individual's personality. If I'm honest, it sounds a little bit like you're going through a bit of denial. Whether you're denying that you prefer men, or denying that you prefer women, I'm not sure. Only you can know that.
To be honest I'm not sure, because I never really get a sexual urge when looking at an attractive man in public(to put it bluntly: more like a he's adorable thought comes to my head), where with girls I have to control my glances so I don't come off as creepy :icon_sad:. The first time I really felt attracted to guys was about 6 months ago getting nervous around a good looking classmate. For all I know I could be going through denial, its why I'm here looking for answers. One thing is certain and it's that I'm attracted to females(I couldn't stop pursuing them even if I tried :lol and if I think of a future, I envision being with a woman as my wife. If I'm in denial of liking men, I'm not sure, like I said earlier, the masculine face does nothing for me(the ones with more feminine faces I like to look at though), instead it just makes me think action hero or makes me wish that I could be like him. I know that I do get turned on by both genders' genitalia. I appreciate all the help you've been giving me bro :icon_bigg.
