I also agreed with that. Why these people just can't understand that the only diffence between a straight and a bisexual is the fact that they're able to feel attracted to both genders just like an heterosexual person? They're normal just like any other person? You know what makes me even more upset? It's the fact that even the members of the community that should support those people are ignorant like that... :eusa_doh:
I love the article, but I despise these stereotypes. Here's what I don't get from what I've seen in the community: why is it that it seems like gay men don't get it? Why is it that lesbians fight more for bisexuals sometimes than we even fight for ourselves? I like the gay guys at the discussion group I attend, but one said, "there's plenty of bi guys out there." Well gee, that's funny because we have a sign in sheet for the group, and I'm the only one of the 14 men there that are bisexual(they keep stats). I realize it is a small sample size but my gosh... Anytime I search for anything about bisexuality online, 80% of it is swinger stuff. While that turns me on, I don't think I'd like to actually DO it. I'd prefer a steady relationship with an open-minded person.
In the very little I have talked to people regarding my sexuality (which I'm unsure of) they typically tell me that I can't possibly be bisexual because I have never dated or hooked up with a girl. They say I only feel this way because I'm in college, regardless of any other information I provide to them about it. It's really upsetting and makes it even more difficult for me to decide my sexuality when my peers do not take me seriously.
Yeah, and I've never hooked up with a girl either, but it doesn't mean I can't be attracted to them. You know who you like, period. If you think about them after they have left the room or while in bed at night(we've all been there), you cannot deny yourself what the truth is.
"Oh yeah, how many threesomes have you had??" Well, me and my two hands, but that's besides the point . . . Unfortunately, I agree - there can be a lot of flack for being bisexual. Hopefully it's by talking about it that we can fix things. *long sigh*
5. You Married Another Gender; Does That Mean You’re Straight Now? I had a lesbian ask me this, but she didn't use the word marry or another gender.
The most annoying question to me is "How Can You Be Monogamous?". This is the reason why I'm afraid of coming out as bisexual. The thought of being rejected based on an assumption really makes it difficult to have the strength to come out. (Also even causes me to doubt my own sexuality to simply be accepted within the lgbt community) Just because a person is bisexual means nothing when it comes to being monogamous or polygamous. It is more a person's personality or beliefs that causes someone to be monogamous or polygamous, not someone's sexuality.
This immensely annoys me too, the bias is clearly visible online. I try to get lesbian or gay support and there's tons of that out there, emphasizing that love is love and such. But once you search for the same for bisexuals, it's all about sex. Suddenly love isn't part of the equation. Because clearly it's not serious or real enough for it to be about love, right? :rolle:
When I found out that bi's are regarded in a bad light even by some in the lgbt community, I almost considered just giving up sex altogether. Maybe it would be easier having no sexuality at all. All my life I have struggled to find acceptance. For some reason I have never quite 'fitted in' to mainstream, straight society in the dating / romantic sense. So when I realized I am probably bisexual (will only know if I'm gay or not when I have actually been with a guy, until then I just can't know for sure), I was happy for a while, I thought, "great, at last I belong, I belong to the wonderfully diverse, inclusive and accepting lgbt community". But now...maybe I should just become a (NON-X'ian) monk after all, or just live as one. Maybe I will never belong anywhere...maybe I ought to just give up sex and forget the whole thing. No I don't want threesomes. No I am not just a gay afraid to come out. etc etc The most ignorant question of all: "how could you be monogamous?" To those who ask this, I ask in return: "So you like girls, yes? Now, does that mean you like every single girl on the planet? Of course not. Or if you like guys, every single guy on the planet? No, of course not. We all fall for one person, one person we have a special connection with. In my case, that could be a man or a woman, but not both at the same time, fgs! I hated reading about all those misconceptions...truly bi's are the most marginalized group of all. Sorry bout the emotional rant Damien
I laughed reading the article but there's also a sad amount of truth to it. I don't know why some people have such a hard time wrapping their head around bisexuality, it ain't that difficult a concept.
