How long did it take for you to accept your sexuality?

Accepted or settled?

I went all around, actually. It took me a few years to get settled on my sexuality, but once I did, I accepted it right away.

 

It took me a very long time. Like seriously I was in denial for so long.

 

10 years

 

three years and I still haven't completely acceptted it. I may have agreed on what it is, but acceptence is another story...

 

I accepted mine... pretty much immediately. Before that I'd questioned for two or three years.

 

Realized something was "off" immediately. Accepting it took about 2 years.

 

A few years. 3/4

 

About 38 years. Now, I just don't understand what took me so long? Why did I believe the religious folks who condemned same-sex attraction, and then even after discarding that religion utterly, why did their early indoctrination of me continue to have an after-effect for so many years? Damn them. Anyway, I'm free now.

 

I didn't really occur to me that I might not be straight until I was almost 14. After that I denied until about a year and a half ago that I felt attraction towards other girls. I had a huge crush on someone in 8th grade and whenever I though about kissing or even just hugging her I had an automatic "no homo" response in my head, because while I did realize what I was feeling, I just didn't want to acknowledge it. For about 6 months I considered myself bi, but quickly realized that this was not the case.

 

Not very long

 

Good question. When I was in my first two years of high school, I was confident in who I was but kept it to myself due the mentality of gay bashings in 80's. Someone I knew caught me with another fella when I was 14/15 years old and it upset his Christian values so he bashed and raped me for his Jesus.

The mentality around me lived on and I feared and hid everything in the back of my mind. I missed out on one or two possible relationships with other fellas due to the fear I carried with me. Especially since in my early 20's, a stranger did attack me in the street, calling out something about being a poofter and tried to hit me but I reacted and my self defence training kicked in and I successfully defended myself(early 90's).

Now I am my early 40's and only really coming back around to accepting who I am as a person.

 

Probably nearly a decade. It's been a struggle, but at least I can acknowledge it now.

 

Most of my life .

 

I was never homophobic ever and no one in family or town is. People use gay slurs but people stopped using them after they found out what they mean, for the most part. But for some reason it took me about a year to fully accept that I'm gay.

I wasn't in denial or anything. I just didn't really connect myself with my sexuality, I guess. Now that I have, I've stopped thinking about it so much. Gonna come out soon

 

I admitted I was gay at age 15-16. Still trying to accept it.

 

It took me a while... I pretty much knew my first year of high school I was attracted to guys, but coming from such a religious homophobic family being gay just wasn't even an option so I had to suppress all those thoughts. Wasn't till college years that I really started to embrace and accept it. I didn't have any gay friends until joining EC so just being here has made me feel a lot more comfortable with myself.

 

Around 8 years

 

4 years and now I love myself and don't let anyone make me ashamed of who I am

 

Still working through some shame. I had inklings when I was 9/10, but only a year and a half ago did I actually have to face it. Since then it's been an on/off thing: I hope this doesn't go on much longer.