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Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by TheAtaris, Jun 28, 2014.

  1. TheAtaris

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    I was just dumped by my girlfriend of over a year and I am having a hard time, I have never told anyone but I am sexually attracted to guys. I'm in my early 20's and I have never acted on this attraction to the same sex, but I do watch gay porn, and have thought about gay sex which excites me. I have never felt a romantic connection with another guy but I do think some guys are hot. I'm not sure if I am in the closet, Bi, or just wanting to experiment. I have some social anxiety and I'm afraid of will happen if people find out about me attraction to men. I want to experiment with other guys my age but with anonymity, i have thought of some sites and other things of that vein but I feel unconformable with making a profile. Also places like craigslist seem unsafe and possible scams. please help me with words of encouragement and ideas on how to safely experiment please.
     
  2. IG88

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    Hi welcome Ataris!

    First of all, I'm sorry that you're girlfriend broke up with you. However, let's say that down the road you'll be happier with a guy, then it was for the best.

    But, like you, I enjoy gay porn, and have never done anything with another guy (or girl either, just kissing). However, I do feel like there is a guy or two that I have met that I have felt more than just physical/sexual attraction to them ... romantic attraction is in there too. So, see if you find certain guys that you are attracted to sexually if you would want to kiss/date them too. Now, since this is all new and foreign to you, your brain is going to automatically reject that notion most likely, since society assumes your straight and wants you to date girls, etc..

    Yeah, those sites are sketch for a reason. You won't find lasting relationships there, and if you do decide to do a random hookup with a dude, what does that prove? That your sexually attracted to some men? What about romantic attraction? Wouldn't that suck to try and start a relationship with a guy that is based around sex and not love? It will fizzle fast.

    However, I'm assuming that you're sexually and romantically attracted to women. And possibly sexually attracted to guys, as for romantic that is unknown. So, it's very possible that you are bi.