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Masculine gays and bisexuals? Dating guys? Please help.

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by John2517, Jul 6, 2014.

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  1. John2517

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    This is another question I have asked about since my curiosity rose. Everyone knows about the stereotypes held about gay guys; very feminine acting and or looking. I asked myself, "how can I like guys? I don't act 'gay'." (Please forgive me for any unintentional offense you may take from my wording). No one would ever suspect me as homosexual. I've only been called gay in usual high school ball-busting and jokes. On another note when ever I imagine myself in a relationship withy the same sex, I never see myself acting the same as I would in a hetero relationship. For ex. I would treat my partner as just a really close guy friend. I wouldn't say "dear" or "honey". Sure I would throw out compliments about them but it would be very different in my imagination. I won't truly know until my first bf but can I please get some help?

    I know part if this could be considered relationship but this is all about my sexual orientation.
     
    #1 John2517, Jul 6, 2014
  2. Peacemaker

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    you dont really have to have pet names or anything for your bf
     
    #2 Peacemaker, Jul 6, 2014
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    Yeah I don't like pet names either
     
    #3 Acm, Jul 6, 2014
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    I will admit when i first started questioning myself i thought about the stereotypical of gay and bisexual, but soon figured out it was completely wrong and have accepted many don't act feminine like me, EX) martial arts, swimming competitively, build, etc. Many might act feminine but a fair amount just act like any other straight guy or girl.
    As for the nicknames peace is right, you don't need to have them. I have nicknames for many friends but not because i like them its just a habit.
     
    #4 ShadowsRunner, Jul 6, 2014
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    Thanks, this has been a great reassurance to me. Any more comments are also appreciated.
     
    #5 John2517, Jul 6, 2014
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    Hey! I'm the same way. When I date guys, I do treat them differently than my straight friends (I sleep with them, obvs hahaha). But, other than that, I say stuff like "boy" or something affectionate like that, but nothing feminine like when I was with a girl. You're not alone :slight_smile:
     
    #6 Pyromaniac, Jul 6, 2014
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