Do other guys also like swapping roles?

Hello all,

well this is a slightly awkward topic for me, but the only way to get help is to be honest, so here goes. I have a pretty good sense of what I am seeking in a male lover already, even though I've not had a boyfriend as yet. I feel pretty much like I will want to embody both roles, the masculine and the feminine, that's my own way of expressing it, can't think of how else to put this. Sometimes I will want to ravish and possess my guy, make sweet love to him and really give it to him, if you'll pardon my directness here. But at other times, I will want to be ravished myself, for him to damn well give it to me, and this is where I will feel more feminine. I already know this, no need to elaborate but it's pretty clear to me. I'm not sure if any other guys feel this way, to desire both roles, to be able to enter into the masculine mood, then at some other time, slip into the feminine mood. I really enjoy the idea of both of these, and would love to explore both. But, and this is probably a stereotype but I'm quite new to this world so bear with me, I had been given the impression over my 'straight' years, that most gay guys are either 'one' or 'the other', and are not into totally swapping their roles, moods, and I must be upfront here, sexual positioning, you know what I mean. Because if I was the one 'giving it' to a guy, I'd be as masculine as if I were making love to a woman. But if I were the one receiving, well heh kind of bashful to admit this, but I think I'd slip into this kind of 'feminine mode' and become somewhat like a girl. God help me, I'm a confused boy at present, yet also savour a sense of anticipation, that maybe, there are some other guys out there in the world who would be similarly inclined.

Ok I'm embarrassed now but this is ec and where else on Earth am I going to feel ok to ask such a question?

thanks for reading
Damien.

 

Thank you, it does help. It felt awkward for me to express what I wrote above, but I feel less so now.

 

'Versatile' sounds pretty good to me. Thank you for sharing your greater knowledge of this subject. As I said, I am new to this world. I feel like I am just setting sail into uncharted waters. I'm glad to hear I'm not alone in how I feel, though, thank you.

Just one other thing, the connection with the person, ultimately, means more to me than exactly 'what' we will do. Sure I've got lots of desire, but ultimately, making love is about just that - love.
Damien

---------- Post added 10th Jul 2014 at 11:29 AM ----------

Rereading what I wrote, and thinking about the replies, I just realized that to be completely honest, I want my 'default' mode to be as masculine, so to speak, because what really attracts me is a guy who is effeminate, who I could relate to kind of as if he were a girlfriend, except he is a guy, with everything that entails. I long most of all for a guy who is a bit girlish in his manner, can act straight on the way to my place and back so the local thugs don't try to beat us up, but once we get to mine, well...

Seriously I have NEVER expressed anything as 'out there' as this in my entire life. I can still hardly believe I am here, desiring this so deeply, and actually writing about it.