Bisexuals, when did you first notice something?

Girls, I was attracted to them when I was 5 or 6. I chased girls around at recess in 1st grade and had several big crushes early on.

When I was 11, I first started noticing guys. The first to truly catch my eye was our swim coach at the city pool. He wore a speedo, and I was glued to his groin when he stripped in the locker room. I had never seen anyone with so much hair down there and a big penis like that. Then, I was attracted to this blonde boy in my class later on in 5th grade, and he had a nice butt. These were just rather innocent; it's not that I wanted to be intimate with him or anything.

In 7th grade, there was a kid who was showing off on the jungle gymn how he could hang off the side of it and do a sideways pull up. I was standing at just the right angle where I could see up his shorts and boxers. I was so smitten with the idea of boxers that I convinced my mom to get me some for night time so I could masturbate in them and think of him. Back to the guy I saw, I then lusted after him for 2 years until he left school, definitely wanting to get with him even though he bullied me sometimes. I didn't care; he was that hot. But it was a Christian school, and I was so far in the closet I was in Narnia.

 

With women, very early. Aside from being attracted to women, I was also drawn to women because, well, do I really need to say it? I felt out of place with my body.

With men, a little bit later. I'd say I had inklings of attraction, but they tended to take a backseat to the ladies. It wasn't until about 3-4 years ago, that I started to evaluate and expand my attraction to men.

The first female I had a significant crush on, was in elementary school, in the 1st or 2nd grade. Of course, I was kind of mean to her. But, that was how people flirted at that age.

The first male I had a significant crush on, was in high school. Before this, I'd noticed a guy could be attractive, but it was always brushed off as a sort of, "Oh, he's good-looking... for a guy." Anyway, this young man was well kept in terms of body and attitude. One of the few jocks who wasn't a stereotypical douche.

 

I'd say it was anywhere from 12 to 14. How did I know? I'd go to a few R-rated movies with my dad, and sometimes my mom came along, but some of them were violent or historical, so she would rather stay home and do homemaker things. I found that I was easily aroused by some of the flesh I saw, at an R-rated level, and that the gender of the person, if I found them attractive and they had a good body which, being that it was a film, they did, did not matter. Did that create confusion? It did.

 

My first attraction happened when I was about 12 or 13. I had one really good friend that I developed an attraction to. In true "raised in the Bible Belt" fashion, I quickly tried to find a boyfriend and pretended I didn't feel anything.

 

I had a strong attraction to girls early in puberty, so like around 12, and had strong lesbian fantasies. That freaked me out because then I looked and thought I was a heterosexual male. Then I found out lesbian fantasies were a thing for straight guys, which I didn't really get (and still don't). But that thought was a safe thought and so I considered myself a straight guy till later in high school. Then I developed a secret crush on a guy. But I still like women more, so it wasn't too threatening to my sexual identity. It's only since I've begun questioning my gender identity and thinking of myself as female have I been thinking that I'm truly bi/pan and not bi-curious.

 

First noticed attraction to both genders in puberty but didn't accept and come to terms with it until, I was around 32. That was probably due to the fact I was in a long term relationship and marriage with kids between 20 - 32 so never had to confront it.

Happy days

 

i probably noticed it when i was a teen. but in that time and place i buried it deep because of the intense homophobia that still exists here but im better equipped to deal with things, if they become "negative" now. i really started to notice late last summer and fall, but i knew this past spring. now im just rolling with it but i can't come out to those i really need to until things get more settled in my life. should be soon i hope.

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more than you asked for, sorry. but you get the idea.

 

I first noticed duel attractions when I was around 5-6. I had such a huge crush on older, handsome, dreamy Josh but soon discovered that I also had a similar crush on older, tall and long flowing-haired Jessica.

Names have been changed to protect the innocent.

 

I mostly had crushes on girls as a little kid. I had the occasional crush on the guy, but usually interpreted it as intense feeling of friendship, as I didn't know that same sex crushes where a thing. As soon as I got puberty it became obvious that I liked guys too.

 

Around Grade 11 I think.

 

Had some panic moments as a kid that I might be gay but always reassured myself because I had crushes on boys too. I decided to focus on those and tried forgetting my dual attractions. Welp that worked out well.

 

First boy crush was in pre K.
First girl crush was in 4th grade. By 5th grade i had more female crushes than male.

My crushes are stilll predominately female, but it's pretty fluid.

 

Around 17-18 I noticed that I felt and thought about guys a lot more than "I should have been". I caught myself staring at models in the underwear section and watching guys in porn more closely. Eventually I figured I was gay or bi. Early this year I had my first boyfriend and real relationship. Today I'm pretty sure I'm Bi.

 

it was only about a year ago that i actually remember seeing for the first time the girl who got me questioning my sexuality, but i know i was questioning before then as well. i was only 20, although i feel like that's later than most people

 

I had found girls attractive through my late childhood (ie before puberty), but around the age of 14 or 15 I think it was, I had a crush on this effeminate looking guy at my high school who, as I recall, appeared to me as so utterly beautiful that I hardly even dared look his way, let alone speak a single word to him. I still recall his slightly reddish cheeks, and his soft skin. That should have been a revelation for me, but it wasn't. In time, I just forgot all about it and pretended to myself as though it had never even happened. Same with the next guy, a guy who clearly was gay (it wasn't a secret around the school) and who kept flirting with me, as well. I think he sensed that I lusted after him, but I wasn't going to reveal that to either him or anyone else. In time, I just swept that under the carpet as well, entered adulthood, and identified as 'straight' for the next twenty-five years.

 

I grew up being attracted to girls. I can remember some pretty severe crushes in 5th grade lol. One little girl, we'll say kelly, was so cute. I mean beautiful curly hair, done up with a pin. I was infatuated with her lol.... I think back and I actually new her in high school. She didnt still have that effect on me unfortunately...

With guys I didnt realize til I developed a crush on a good friend. Most of the people here probably can guess how tht was lol. That was around 22-23.

Fuck, Im old...

 

I first suspected I could be bi at 15 or 16, so I marked 16. But it wasn't through liking anyone in particular, more of a hunch and a logical deduction from feeling the same way about both genders (virtually zero primary attraction). Demisexuality kind of messes with the whole "you just know" thing.

 

I noticed when I was about 15