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Im very confused

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by rabarber, Jul 15, 2014.

  1. rabarber

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    Hello!


    To me it feels like I might be gay in denial, but then I am not sure and I could never set myself in a real life situation with a guy, nor sexual or romantic.




    When I watch a video of a solo girl I find it pretty challenging to get hard, but I will after masturbating a little. Then I can also orgasm.

    When I watch a video of a guy I find myself not wanting to do it all, but I get hard very easy and orgasm easy too. Well mostly from seeing the dick, not so much the other parts of the guy, specially not the face. Its like mine growing by itself by seeing theirs, whereas with the video of the girl I have to work for it more hard.


    I have never in my life had any sexual experience with guys. Can't really say I had any crushes, it might have happened a very few times that I got turned on by one though, and later fantasized about it. It might have happened more times that I did check them out without understanding why.


    With girls though I walk around bending my head all of the time and feeling a longing feeling and even feel it growing down there a little, maybe not superhard. I have had countless crushes on girls aswell. Allthough I have had some problems with getting hard with girls when I try to sleep with them so my 27 year old life has ended in my only having a few partners. Though it has been working allright once I've gotten comfortable with them.


    I long to be in relationsships with girls, no guys. But I can't shake the thought of the strong feeling when seeing other mens penises in porn. It keeps me thinking I might be exclusively gay.



    What do u think about me?


    Thanks...
     
  2. Yosia

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    You cant judge sexuality on your penis. To me it sounds like you are interested in girls but can get hard for boys. But if you have no desire for them then you cant be gay. Unless you do desire them but are surpressing your feelings?
     
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    No I dont have any longings for them from what I can feel.. However it seems to work very well whenever I try it, only on the internet though..
     
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    Then i would say you are attracted to girls.
     
  5. GeekMonkey

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    You sound absolutely straight to me.
    I'm a lesbian and somehow the phallus fascinates me, but that's the only part of the male anatomy that does, and in my case it's more that I'd sometimes like to have one, not have one inside of me.

    Btw, weird idea: mirror neurons.
    Those enable us to pur ourselves in someone else's shoes and to imitate them.
    Those might very well be at work there and since you're male yourself it might be easier to imitate what the men are doing and to empathize with their arousal than when watching a girl .