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Sex should be encouraged shouldn't it?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by BearLover, Jul 20, 2014.

  1. BearLover

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    Why is it that we think that what is common is natural and therefore hot? I'm starting to think maybe people are so deeply insecure about sexuality they have to conform to societies ideas of what sexuality is right and wrong. People think sex is dirty yet we can't get enough of it, surely life would be so much better if there were no common opinions on what was wrong, dirty, pervy, weird, etc. I don't see how people are so content with a plain vanilla sexuality, why is it that being just like everyone else is so hot? Do you not think that's spicing it up a bit if people had uncommon sexualities? Isn't is healthier to be more accepting of sexualities, seriously anything that is done in the bed that is legal and consenting should be encouraged!

    Why not encourage people to spicen up their sex lives? Why are we encouraged to be plain? Surely people should encourage people to try all kinds of things in the bedroom, with all kinds of people, exploring your sexuality to your hearts desire. Why not encourage people to try sex being bisexual, how can you be sure that you won't like it?

    It's like this. You have an ice cream man in front of you, yet we all overrate how great vanilla is, we boast about vanilla as if it's so amazing but have we ever tried chocolate or even chocolate and vanilla? Or maybe chocolate and vanilla with sprinkles etc. How do you know you won't like it when you've never tried it?

    Surely it's better to encourage people to spicen up their sexualities even if it's weird, that's more healthy, imagine how much less stressed the world would be if we were all doing quite creative stuff in the bedroom? There's no need to shy away from it, encourage it, most people are so focused on what is "normal" that they live bad lives. It's healthier to try everything you can! Why would you limit yourself to a plain sexuality when you can try it all?

    "Sex is as important as eating or drinking and we ought to allow the one apetite to be satisfied with as little restraint or false modesty as the other." -Marquis de Sade
     
  2. Fallingdown7

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    Half agree and half not. I think we should encourage an open-minded attitude for people who feel shame about being kinky and want to explore, but I also think vanilla people should still have their rights to stay within their comfort zone.
     
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    I agree with Fallingdown and to me, i think its the social construct of normality and fear that keeps us so separate from exploring our sexuality, people are trained/indoctrinated from an early age to be what they SHOULD be before thy even have a chance to know who they ARE and try exploring
     
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    Why should everyone be encouraged to be bisexual ? not everyone is bisexual , trust me I tried that road and didn't like it and hadn't gone back since . I don't see bisexuality as spicing things up you don't need to be bi to have a fun sex life it's either you are or aren't . If you want to spice up your sex life yourself and try bisexuality I say go for it but why try to force it on everyone ?:confused:
    Didn't know it was boring now to only be into one sex
     
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    Hi bearlover,

    of course sex is healthy and if between two consenting adults, is perfectly ok no matter what their respective genders, orientations, etc. Personally I can relate to the idea of wanting to experient; I've been with women, not too many I must admit, but enough to know what the 'flavour' of straight sex is like. Now, I wish to try the 'flavour' of gay sex, to really get together with a guy properly and see what it is like. But this is only because the actual desire is there. If I had no interest, I would not bother to experiment just for the sake of it. I agree that we can just follow our inclinations, so long as we don't harm anyone in the process, but I don't think we need to wilfully go out and try absolutely everything, although I'm not sure if that was what you were getting at...?

    Damien :slight_smile:
     
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    Encouraged? I am not sure. Accepted as a natural thing and people just leave what others do in their bedroom alone? Yeah.

    It is a very personal thing. Some might not be ever interested in anything else than vanilla, and it is up to them to choose when they feel are ready to experiment more. You shouldn't force it on them. You can entice them with the prospect, but never pressure them into it, and make it clear that they can always ask you to stop talking about it.

    Being pressured in either way, to be "normal" or to experiment, is equally annoying.
     
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    People ideally would stop feeling guilty or ashamed about the things they want. But encouraging people to have sex when they don't want it, are not curious... not everyone is sexual all the time or in the same way. I think my teenage years made me feel guilty enough for NOT having sex, or for dismissing certain ideas as turn-offs, and so I'd have to counter your statement by saying that society definitely does encourage sex, but that in itself can be problematic.
     
  8. Fallingdown7

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    Yeah, I agree with the others. It's wrong to both encourage and discourage sex (sometimes encouraging it is even worse since it can lead to coercion and rape culture). I think sex should stay neutral since preferences and consent is so important.
     
  9. asdfghjk

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    sex seems neat!!! who desires it? i will leave my office door open, for those open to the idea. Never feel shame for the desire or lack of!!!!!!

    *sits alone in office playing tetris for nine hours* also a rewarding day
     
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    i dont think its a good idea
    if you have a teen daughter or a teen son would you encourage him to have sex ?? if you did im sure his mind would tell him you are allowed to do it and he\she will have sex with just anyone he\she think is hot or attractive or turns them on do you think this is good??
    what if they had unsafe sex even if you told them not to and your daughter will either be pregnant or have hiv and your son will not pregnant but what if he had hiv too?? sex is healthy but i think only with someone you at least know a little about him and your both adult and being safe unless your married and trust him too much
    sex for teens is always dangerous and should never be encouraged they are going through a sex drive and they are way too horny most of the time you never know if they are safe or not thats why we should be strict with teens about sex and to be safe because we want them safe
    as for me i wont have sex until marriage no sex with strangers or hook ups i don't want to end in the hospital even people who have safe sex have a chance of getting aids so for me sex is no game i will have the first time with my husband

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    but about being open minded about sex sure but not too much people are already open minded look at video games and movies they are turning to porn games and movies full of sex scenes and nudity no game doesn't have nudity even those that are for kids i think people are way too open minded already and their mind will fall off one day because of how open minded about nudity and sex these days
    talking about straight even though its out of topic but games only have girls who are naked or straight sex
    lesbains are for movies
    all for straight guys to be pleasured i see society is open minded about sex way too much movies have sex scenes similar to porn now so whats more open minded than that -.- a 4 years old kid would know how children are produced now so please more open minded and 10 years old kids would start having sex
    if not 11 are already having sex like that girl on yahoo asking if 11 way too young to have sex and they told her no its ok even though she said the guy is 16 !
     
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    Hi! Welcome to the internet. You must be new here :slight_smile: as you explore this new world, you'll find that sex and sexuality for people (people as in, the average janes and joes you see everyday) is ANYTHING but plain vanilla. You'll find flavors you didn't ever want to see!! Flavors you wish you could UNsee!! I really don't want to know that the lady down the street is into having sex with life like hand puppets or the guy at the counter store likes to squeal around like a little piggy to skrillex while his partner throws dildos at him, so while equality is important it's also nice to have something intimate that we only share with certain people, which is why you do not hear about this sort of thing even though it's happening with everyone around you.
     
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    This is your answer :thumbsup:
     
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    The same way I don't need to be set on fire to know I won't like it.

    You want to get kinky and freaky and have Rocky Road, you go right ahead.

    I'll stick with what I know I'm comfortable with.
     
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    I'm currently questioning my sexuality and am open to exploring sex. I've never fantasized about having sex with a woman but have fantasized about having sex with men countless times. Who knows? Maybe I will enjoy it more with a woman than with a man. The only way to find out which way is to try them both.