No real arousal, other than an erection when I look at a woman's body sometimes. However I can't describe 'horny' as despite physical arousal, I have no kind of urge to put it anywhere. Hence why I'm on this site. I'm of the opinion that I'm asexual. It's confusing as hell, but the important thing is not to worry. I was so scared of thinking anything that wasn't 'normal'. Que panic attacks and mentally weakening myself. This all started around the age of 10; I'm 31 now. Thought I was gay, not because I was attracted to men; but because I was never really attracted to women. Whilst all my friends wanted girlfriends, I was actually scared/terrified of being intimate with a woman. I used to get terrible depression over it. But last year I decided to face myself, and accept who I was. Anyway, that's pretty much my whole life story haha. My advice, is don't worry buddy. I know so much what you're going through, but worrying will probably make you ill, like it did with me.
Wll I was told I had ocd by a therapist but I doubt it because these groinals are so strong like arousal although I do think about this 24/7 and it causes me anxiety and depression.
I am the same way. I have no romantic attraction to either sex. The thing is that I feel like I would be more comfortable getting intimate with a man rather than a woman. That also being said, I am not sure how those feeling would persist I were faced with a chance to actually get intimate.
I mean what does sexual arousal feel like to gay people? Do you get boners looking at a pic of a topless guy? Do you feel a tingling in your groin or just a relaxed erection or does it feel like you need to have sex right now type of thing?
Hi Eric Dave, I think arousal has different levels. In my case, well I can be just 'horny' and feel it in the loins, sure. But as things progress, I think we all begin to notice how it's no longer just our loins that are 'aroused', but increasingly our entire body, right? And even more intense is when in my case, I feel like I am no longer in control so much, anymore; I can feel 'swept away' by passion sometimes, and this is not just physical but emotional as well, and is the most blissful sexual state of all, imo.
I used to get very aroused to girls in porn and stuff. But then that feeling disappeared and now its come for guys so I guess Im gay. Although when I am aroused by men I dont get an erection but I feel inteseity in my groin and it frightens me.
