I am guy and my best friend( who is a guy) i first met him at the age of 10. We had a great relationship at first and more and more we become best friends.At the age of 15 ( we are sure best friends) I fell in love with him. I was ignoring my feeling but at the age of 16 the feelings got stronger, i am thinking of him all day all night and i have dreams about him for example kissing him ,hugging him, cuddle and even SEX!. I dont know really what i must do, he has a girlfriend and he is my best friend... I cant betray my friend because 1. He is my best friend 2. He has a girl friend 3. HE is boy When i see him i smile, he makes me feel so well, when i see him and even i see his muscles, he turns me on. I think he is really cute and handsome and a very good person, he always trusts me. We say , i love you, but he says it for our friendship and not for really love. I love him so much, i can sacrifice anything to meet him and tell him that i am in love with him, i dont know really what i must do.. I afraid his reaction.:icon_sad:. Should i tell him that i am in love with him? And if yes what i must do.... He cares for me i care for him so much.... Everyday i cry because he isnt next to me.. I want his hug.. :help:
You do sound very connected with this guy, there's no doubt that you have some feelings for him. I was in a similar situation, I was in love with my best friend too! He was a guy also, and he had a girlfriend. What happened was, I stopped liking him, and I went out with his girlfriend a few months later. I realized how much of a bad person he was, he changed, and I held on for so long that I was loving someone who normally I wouldn't love, but I was attatched. I stopped liking him, and me and his ex just started talking, we got on so well and we've been going out for 8 months. Back to the point, I never told him i liked him, simply because I just knew he didn't like me. I didn't want to make things awkward, I just treated him extremely well and would do anything for him. But the thing is, if your best friend is NOT GAY, you cannot force it on them! You'll just have to move on which is very hard but you'll just end up getting more hurt. If your best friend is gay, then wait it out. It seems so bad to say but, I just waited for my best friend and his girlfriend to break up, but by the time they did, I was over him. So, you do what you think is best for you, but it's never easy to fall in love with a best friend. I also really liked a girl best friend of mine, like, a lot. We were very close, but she just saw me as gay so she never really gained feelings for me, I told her when i was drunk at a party "I love this girl" "Who?" -I keep quiet, she says some names- "Oh my god it's me isn't it?" "yeah, i know you don't like me though, but i just wanted to tell you" she said sorry she didn't love me etc... and our friendship fizzled out. It can go bad when you tell your best friend you love them, so be prepared for that. Best of luck
I understand but my friend isnt a bad person.. There is no way that his girlfriend and he broke up. They are so in love together.. I dont know really he said to me If i have a problem , i should go tell him, but it is about him... Why love is bad?..... Should i tell him first that maybe i am gay and i see his reaction and if it is not bad, should i eventually tell him that i am in love with him?( Sorry for my english)
People may seem very happy together but it may just be a short lived infatuation. It won't last forever. And yeah, I think telling him you are gay is a good first step. It's what I did; I said I was bisexual, just so he knows that there is a chance between us if he ever considered it. I wouldn't say you were in love with him while he is with someone, I think it would be best to try leave it as long as you can. But if you just cannot bear it anymore, you'll just have to tell him how you feel. And love hurts, it's a fact. It's never easy.
I agree with joeltlou that you should come out to him and see how he reacts to that before, and if, you tell him you have feelings for him.
It destroyed my friendship, be careful. Declaring love will likely news things up beyond your wildest imaginings.
I told him that maybe i am gay and he said to me to watch straight porn to see if this porn turns me on.. And it doesnt really..... Maybe its the time to tell him the truth...(*hug*)
