1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

do you think gay men will date transmen?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by bluerain, Jul 29, 2014.

  1. bluerain

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jul 27, 2013
    Messages:
    25
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Some people
    do you think it's possible to find a gay man that would be willing to be with a transman? I've been feeling pretty down about this lately because it seems like so much emphasis is placed on the parts of a bio man.
     
  2. stocking

    stocking Guest

    Joined:
    Jul 12, 2013
    Messages:
    7,542
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    New England
    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    I heard one trans man hear said that he has a boyfriend but he's bi and I have heard on other sites other gay men were dating trans men .
     
  3. Acm

    Acm Guest

    I worry about the same thing :frowning2:
     
  4. Peacemaker

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 14, 2014
    Messages:
    1,201
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Columbus, Georgia
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    I would date a trans-man
     
  5. jay777

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jul 16, 2014
    Messages:
    1,599
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Of course it is. People are in all kinds of relationships.
     
  6. mangotree

    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 4, 2014
    Messages:
    1,322
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Queensland, Australia
    Given the chance, I would definitely date a trans-man :slight_smile:
     
  7. redneck

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Aug 29, 2013
    Messages:
    280
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Ft. Smith, Ar
    Gender:
    Male
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I probably wouldn't. Like you said I enjoy the parts a cis-male is born with. If I don't get to play with those parts on a regular basis, I become one grouchy SoB. This is just my personal feelings though. I cannot speak for others.
     
  8. jay777

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jul 16, 2014
    Messages:
    1,599
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    This is a game where your expectations influence the outcomes. If you are cheerful and happy, you tend to attract such people.

    There are people in the LGBT community, and outside of it, who put an emphasis on relationship, or they are bi etc.

    There really are examples for all kinds of relationships.
     
    #8 jay777, Jul 30, 2014
    Last edited: Jul 30, 2014
  9. pigpassport

    pigpassport Guest

    It will depend on each individual person. Some people would be quite happy to, others wouldn't. I think I would probably date a transwoman, but I think I would only be likely to go for at least a mostly transitioned transwoman because I'm just not physically attracted to the male form, although you never know.
    But yeah it'll depend on people individually and you and they will really never know until the opportunity is presented to them whether they would or not I think.
     
  10. ZeroDarkness

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jul 29, 2014
    Messages:
    64
    Likes Received:
    2
    Location:
    Florida
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Personally, I have no problems with dating a trans man. I'm sure it depends on the person, but I'm more of a romantic relationship person (as opposed to a sexual relationship), so I guess I don't mind what's down there too much.
     
  11. Quem

    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 1, 2014
    Messages:
    1,288
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    The Netherlands
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I'm bisexual, but yes, I think so. It depends on the person. Some will and some won't.
     
  12. flipflopflying

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jul 29, 2014
    Messages:
    4
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    I don't think I would, I'm gay because I want to be with a man. Having said that I do know plenty of other gay men who *would* date a trans-person.

    But you're trans, why limit yourself to gay men? Don't feel that you have to limit yourself to what you know. You should feel free to date and enjoy everyone your sexuality dictates :slight_smile:
     
  13. stocking

    stocking Guest

    Joined:
    Jul 12, 2013
    Messages:
    7,542
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    New England
    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    What about after surgery?, not to pry but didn't you say you sleep with women occasionally in another post just correct me if i'm wrong . Not saying a trans man is the same as a female because I think trans men are men but if a trans man still has his vagina what's the big deal if you are fine with sleeping with the opposite sex . ?
    Why wouldn't you date a trans man not attacking you by the way I'm just wondering :confused:


    I didn't mean to offend any trans men with this post and sorry if I did
     
  14. YuriBunny

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jan 10, 2014
    Messages:
    44
    Likes Received:
    7
    Location:
    I'm an introvert; I live in my head.
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I think it depends on the guy.
     
  15. Well, trans men are men, they're just not male in the downstairs department, unless they've had reassignment surgery.

    OP, I know of quite a few gay guys who date trans men. There are a lot of guys who are kind of iffy on the female anatomy thing, but they stick it out because they really like the guy. Some of them even discover that it's not that bad lol.
     
    #15 Electric Lady, Jul 30, 2014
    Last edited by a moderator: Jul 30, 2014
  16. MassiveExtract

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jul 15, 2014
    Messages:
    205
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Puerto Rico
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Some people
    Not my preference, but I know a lot of gay men who would. I imagine it's a bit more difficult, but the possibilities are there.
     
  17. redneck

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Aug 29, 2013
    Messages:
    280
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Ft. Smith, Ar
    Gender:
    Male
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Yes I do occasionally have sex with females, but usually they bring their bisexual husband/bf with them. And even if I were to have sex with a female by herself it would be a one time thing and I would be free to have sex with men just as soon as my door closed. If I were actually dating someone I wouldn't have the freedom to go out and get what I actually want physically.
    I'm not saying I wouldn't be friends and accept a transguy as a guy, but if we were to get intimate the moment I realized that certain parts were missing I would be disappointed.
     
  18. stocking

    stocking Guest

    Joined:
    Jul 12, 2013
    Messages:
    7,542
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    New England
    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    I get what you mean now and why you won't date thank you for sharing that with me . I must say you have a great system to meet men all planned out for yourself I'll give you that :grin:
     
  19. redneck

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Aug 29, 2013
    Messages:
    280
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Ft. Smith, Ar
    Gender:
    Male
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    No problem, I have nothing against answering questions that are asked in the pure pursuit of understanding. There is no real system of meeting guys, I'm just a slut who occasionally meets a guy, who knows a guy, who knows a guy. Lol
     
  20. Parapraxis

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jul 26, 2014
    Messages:
    19
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Maryland
    Out Status:
    Some people
    I'm physically attracted to men so it's possible that I would give it a shot. That's assuming a full transition had taken place.