Just need to vent here. My arousals for women has just vanished almost entirely. Im 32 but questioning since age 25. I used to get very very aroused by solo girl porn, lesbian porn etc. Kissing girls would make me excited as would cuddling on couch etc.. I've ejaculated prematurely for girls too. Once a girl sat on my lap and moved around a bit and I ejaculated an enormous amount. My pants were soaking. That would have been in my early 20's. Anyway its all gone now. Kissing a girl gives me very mild arousal. Also porn seems boring now. When I started questioning age 25 I would check straight porn and get aroused and cum and it would reassure me I was straight. I would also look at gay porn find it both boring and gross and also feel reassured. This continued from 2007-2013 and the gay porn 99 times out of 100 I would find it boring. However int he last year or so straight porn like lesbian porn is boring and not very arousing at all now and the gay porn is beginning to arouse me. Also I used to feel aroused when I would be chatting up a girl in a club/pub etc.. Now thats gone too. Its all been replaced by gay stuff. Guys make me feel uncomfortable and nervous now, and I get groinal shivers/tingling in my testicles. I also get a fast heart beat and sometimes streesful feeling in my chest/stomach. was I born gay or turn gay? I just want to be straight. I must be in serious denial. I miss feeling aroused for chicks. I still see beautiful girls out and wish they would come over and talk to me but then I remember Im gay now and feel shit.
As far as I know, you can't 'turn gay.' What probably happened was that you discovered you were attracted to men after viewing gay porn. I think what's important now is that you begin to acknowledge this attraction and understand that you are still the same person regardless. It is just another part of you that you will have to love and accept. Good luck my friend! (*hug*)
Why did it take looking at gay porn hundreds of times to get aroused by it? Why didn't it turn me on from the start?
The brain works in different ways. You could be bisexual and at the moment only the male attraction side is showing itself. Before only the female attraction was expressing itself. I could be completley wrong but it could also be that you are gay and society has placed such pressure on you to be straight that you thought you were. It could also be the other way around. You could be straight and your fears of being gay coupled wity the fact that you have been viewing porn have fooled you into thinking you are gay. Sorry i gave you a whole lot of answers but in the end, only you can discover who you are and no matter what you will always be the person you were before.
Sexual orientation fluidity is totally a thing. You can Google it and find stuff for sure. It seems to me that it's better researched in women (probably because less stigma means women are ok being more open about it), but I have no doubt it happens to people with all sorts of gender and sexual orientation identities. I used to think I was straight, then I thought I was bisexual with a strong preference for men. Now I have no idea--over time, I've fluctuated more and more toward liking women (with some bouncing back and forth on the day-to-day scale). Sorry if this doesn't make you feel better (I know it confuses the shit out of me, and I really would prefer to just be a lesbian). But I totally think you can change over time, and some research indicates the same.
