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Should I Just "Accept" It?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by rich96, Aug 1, 2014.

  1. rich96

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    I've been a fan of porn since I was young, but years later I noticed I got erect from seeing a guy's erection in a scene. It didn't bother me until now though when I got back into porn. I like girls, i've dated them, had sex with them, I like girls, honestly I have a crush on one of the new dentists at my dentist office (I have a thing for older women, their mature and classy) so it's established that I like females. But like just now, im watching a scene and I undeniablely get erect seeing his erection, and seeing the girl do what she does to him/it.

    It doesn't give me any feelings or desires like women naturally do for me, I want to be with them, know them, or if they're revealing their bodies I want their bodies, I wish to do things to them. But when I see the male porn stars erection, it's just an erection, there's no type of feeling that goes beyond that and that's why I just don't friggen get it. Because if I wanted it, or guys or something, then it'll be a totally different story. But it just gives me an an erection without having any kind of sexual desire at all.

    While I identify as heterosexual, it just doesn't feel right to me. That's why maybe I should just accept it, yet knowing I like women, knowing I go to the porn for the women anyway. But when you look at the definition of gay, I don't fit the description. But it don't fit heterosexual either. It troubles me at times because I feel like if I do get in bed with another girl in the future, I don't know if that will change my ability to have sex.

    I am circling around here, I can't accept what I'm not, but it's weird to say I'm heterosexual if the sight of a guy's erection gives me an erection. I know it's not going to change, I could easily just watch porn with just females in it (and I do), but it's not going to change anything. I wish sexuality was just nothing, and that people just do what they do without having some kind of name for it. What I'm concerned with is if this is some subset of bisexuality or something (I'm reaching, can't blame me) because I'm only interested in females, I'm so tired.

    If anyone is kind enough to give thoughtful feedback, I'll appreciate it, because this is just exausting.
     
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    Well, for starters its natural to get a erection after looking at someone elses, porn or not. Its just how were programmed. Like robots really. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    It's actually pretty normal to become physically aroused at the sight of something that you're not normally attracted to. Sometimes I get aroused when I see lesbian porn, but it's not because I think the women are hot. Sometimes I just like seeing people experiencing pleasure or being turned on. It doesn't sound like you're gay or bisexual to me since men don't make you "horny" or anything like that.